Read below...this is what you are doing to yourself
Taken from the OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free of OCD that I always recommend but nobody seems to ever buy.
Intrusive thought --> Catastrophic appraisal of the thought --> Increased anxiety and worry --> Overcontrol strategies which include Vigilence (Could I really do it? and Covert rituals (testing) --> temporary anxiety reduction --> The cycle starts over again.
"Primarily obsessional OCD begins with an intrusive, distressing thought that the person appraises in a particularly negative way. In the person's mind, the thought is experienced as having the same reality or importance as an action. As a result, the person attempts to avoid or suppress the thought. This leads to various overcontrol strategies to reduce anxiety, including mental rituals. While these strategies may reduce discomfort, the effect is only temporary, and then the cycle begins again."
Internet searches are a bad idea when you have any type of OCD because your glass is half empty right now and so you are going to key in on all the negative things you read. If HOCD wasn't real, why are so many people suffering from it? You have only to look on this forum to see that the majority of the posts are regarding HOCD.
Horrific thoughts are what we with OCD come up with. Horrific in the sense theat they are life altering because let's face it, if they were not, we wouldn't be bothered by them.
You don't have a good handle on OCD and what it can do to you and you obviously don't have a handle on how to help yourself. You need to see a counselor or at least your general practicition at this point. Second guessing, testing, all that stuff is only going to continue to make things worse. You have only to look at the progression chart I posted above to know that. AND you had a gay man chime in...what more reassurance do you need? You are stuck in this cycle and you need to get out of it now so call your doctor.
When these people say they have urges or a wanting to do something what do they mean like I dont have those all I have is a fear I'm going to find a man sexlly attractive?
I keep reading on this website called EC that HOCD does not exist? Im sorry if it doesnt then have I been living a lie?
Explain why my attraction to every single female is gone no matter how hot they are? Im forcing myself to check everyone out and get anxiety from every single guy I see but every girl I see makes me feel numb?
Here's the thing I've read so many other things that says that the majority of HOCD suffers are themselves gay and just dont want to be so badly that they've made it up?
Its defintely not helping I understand gibe it time lol but here's the thing I know how irrational this thinking is because i simply think I've turned gay because I was talking to a gay man?