Posted this question in the Anxiety forum and got told to post it here..
Hello, I'm a 17 year old female for starters,
Okay so since I was younger I have had crushes on guys my whole life and loved a few guys but never girls.... However, about 7 months ago I split up with a past boyfriend that I believed I really loved until it all went pear-shaped and I started getting questions in my mind like "do you really love him?" that would torment me until I had to break up with him. However, this continued to occur every relationship i had afterwards which lead me to believe i had a bit of ROCD. Due to the fact i couldn't escape I became depressed and apathetic, and still am today, I cant feel any emotion anymore, no excitement, passion for anyone or happiness, just anger or occasional sadness. However, about 2 months ago I suddenly had this thought out of nowhere saying, "what if your a lesbian?" This really really distressed me to the point i cried everyday after college for about 5 days. The first day I had this thought I went to bed to try and block out the thoughts they were that bad. (I'm not homophobic and have nothing against gays) But i just couldn't be a lesbian and girls do NOT turn me on. It scares me the thought of being with one. Sometimes I get the occasional thought " its okay if your a lesbian" then i quickly think "No, what am I thinking no its not" Its just taken over my life when I see an pretty female my anxiety goes wild and i tell myself "I can tell shes pretty, but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to her don't be silly" but I see guys and I'm attracted but I don't feel like i want to be with them anymore which scares me!?!?!? I imagine myself being intimate with girls and I get scared and disgusted then with guys and it feels right. However, these thoughts have seemed to calm down now which makes me worried as I think i have agreed with the thoughts now, will this ever stop its driving me mad! And do you recon I have HOCD or I'm just a closeted gay?! Has anyone had the same thing, and has anyone got over this?!