JGF25 is a genius keep listening to her, sounds like she's got you on the right track
Counter those negative statements with positive statements of fact. You are going to be okay and I am glad that you are starting counseling on Friday. It will make the world of difference in your life.
Right now im feeling so numb. I don't know WHAT to feel or WHAT to do anymore, I almost feel like giving up and saying "oh Iike women now"...but i can't! it wasn't my life before i started questioning things
I'm seeing a counsellor on friday but PLEASE HELP.
my problem is that my hocd is convincing me that I like my friends….it generally does this to all my female friends but it is stronger with this person. It’s like she is the face of my hocd.
I don’t understand. It’s like my mind keeps telling me “you like her” ..”You fancy her”..which I don’t understand because before the hocd I was friends with this person and never even thought about them that way…..in fact I NEVER thought of ANY of my female friends that way.
But it feels soooo real. My brain keeps bringing up images of her in my head…and then tells me “You keep thinking about her therefore you like her” … I’m scared if I keep thinking about it I will start believing it to be true it will therefore prove I am gay/ bi sexual.
How do I stop this??!!
Also, since we are both doing a catwalk fashion show for my university, I am going to have to regularly see her in rehearsals…and I will also be surrounded by many other females. I’m soo scared I will just start liking her…or liking someone else
This is freaky it feels soo real!! Help!!
Well i too used to be into gay porn and had some gay fantasies but i was only attracted to girls and have only had sex with them.. during my HOCD and before that i got off to gay porn but was primarily into straight stuff.. trust me ur brain can be wired to get off to stuff and the anxiety of not being straight enough might kill the straight fantasies as long as ur anxious..
But after my HOCD ended, i have no jacked to gay stuff somehow it just doesnt appeal anymore.. it might also just be a certain context in lesbian stuff u like, that straight porn just lack of.. but still you would not be interested in the women per-se, only a specific thing in the action.. you being afraid of this proves you have not intention of getting involved with women.. trust me, sexuality doesnt always reflect to ur real wishes..
Here are some books you can look up...
Brain Lock
Self-Coaching by Joseph Luciani
Also, here is a breathing technique that you can use anywhere at any time to help calm yourself down. Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for 5 seconds and count this out in your head, then let it all out through your mouth. Try this at first lying down with your hands on your stomach.
The self-coaching entails you countering your mind. So if your mind says "You like her" you say "NO, NOT GOING THERE, ENOUGH" or "I LIKE GUYS, END OF STORY" and then busy yourself with something. Stress makes things worse and since you are still doing your University stuff, I'm sure you are stressed.
We don't wake up one day and become gay. If you don't see yourself in a relationship with a woman, then you cannot possibly be gay. If you said out loud "I'm Gay" would you want to run out and get a girlfriend and jump into bed with her? If not, then you cannot possibly be gay.
No I'm not a Virgin. I have had about 4 sexual partners and all have been male....and I have loved it!!! I don't know why my mind is making me believe I like girls now and my mind is beggininning to choose girls to obsess over! I try and fight it but it uses my past against me which I completely forgot about until all of this.
Literally want to go back to my normal self two weeks ago!! It was only two weeks ago that I was obsessing over whether I should stay in my relationship or whether I like two guys at the same time ...now THIS came out of the blue!!
Any advice whilst I wait to see my counsellor???
understand that your mind is messing with you....... the urge with within you is taking roots..... don't think about that... think something else.......
and also, an important question, are you a virgin? this question is very important in shaping up your psychology.....
http://shahbazshams.blogspot.in/2013/12/feeling-guilty.html
Hi, thanks so much for your reply! I am booked to see a counsellor and a doctor but not until a few months as the UK system is very slow.
Do you have any tips to help me cope meanwhile?? I am trying to do my university work but i cant even bring myself to.
However, recently it has gotten worse as it has picked out one of my friends to obsess over. As in, when I think of HOCD I picture this girl....when I think of my other female friends I also get pangs of anxiety. Its like my brain is convincing me that I have a crush on them??
Its all just too much and its starting to feel TOO real :(
Hi there. Well all I can say is the mind is very powerful and sometimes when we say black it says white. You have to learn to ignore the thoughts or really just let them wash over you like they mean nothing at all. This takes some training. Since you are pretty much done in by this and it does sound like depression has set in, it is time to see a psychologist so that you can learn cognitive behavioral therapy. Make sure they teach CBT before you pick a p-doc.
Porn is stimulating no matter what kind it is. Sometimes the same old same old gets boring. If I were to watch regular porn (which usually has girl on girl action in it) and I were to have an orgasm on the girl part, does that make me gay? No it does not. It is the content as a whole that turns me on.
In any event, get rid of all the triggers in your life. Don't do any testing for groinal responses because you know what will happen. You will be sitting there saying to yourself "did I like it...did I feel something...was it real...was it not...am I imagining it...and on and on and on. It all just become exhausing. See a doctor because this is treatable with the right help.
Please someone help me out PLEASE!