How do you get over Rumination ocd?

[bringmejoy]

Hi, I've been suffering from HOCD for a while now and even though i feel a bit better it's still there. I've done some reading and recently ive discovered that i dont exactly act out compulsions to bring my anxiety down, its more like rumination - im just in a constant state of argument with my own thoughts and i was just wondering if anyone has any tips on rumination specifically? I've also been suffering quite badly from false attractions with literally every girl i see and its driving me crazy because its so stupid but at the same time i just cant ignore it! i had to share a bed the other day with a girl im not that close with and it gave me so much anxiety that the reason i was uncomfortable with it was because im gay/bi even though ive never really been comfortable sharing a bed, even with my own sister and before ocd it never occured to me that it was because i was gay. ive also been wondering if i 'look' gay? like i'll look at a picture of myself and start thinking that i actually look like a gay person which is so annoying because it's so silly! its just so annoying because ive been giving people advice, why cant i take my own advice?!!

[123tushar07]

take professional help, ocd is a big problem , you have to consult a psychiatrist for medicine and psychologist for cognitive behavior therapy

[bringmejoy]

Thank you for your advice. I'm just finding it so hard to move on because i have a constant need to settle the argument in my head, it's almost as if my mind is telling me i don't want these thoughts to go away because what if they go away and i end up being someone i'm not? I'll take your advice on board though.

[JGF25]

You get over it by learning CBT from a psychologist.  You learn ways to change your thinking to something more positive.  You learn how to breathe when you are anxious so that you can think more rationally. You learn to self-coach yourself through these thoughts.  One thing you can try is to imagine a stop sign and say STOP in your head every time you think a thought.  Say "NO I'M NOT GOING THERE, ENOUGH, MOVE ON" or "WHATEVER" and move on.