Hi, all. My name is Emily, and I'm 16 My sister Shannon is 11, a twin, and has been diagnosed with OCD. My mom, dad, and myself would like to know if there's anything we can do---therapies, groups, anything---to make her life a little easier for her, and how to help her cope. Here's a little about my sis:
She isn't the "neat" type of OCD, but she's a "lister", as her doctor calls it. Shan has to do everything a very specific way, the same way each day, or she'll be very mad. After about four or five months, she'll switch something in the routine on her own, and have to stick with that new routine until she tires of it. For example, she eats a single berry-flavored waffle every morning, has to put on a specific number of chocolate chips all in rows, and doesn't want the rows smeared. If something goes wrong and she can't have this, she'll get really mad.
We've also noticed her wringing her hands now when she's nervous, anxious, or excited. She'll do it so much she make her hands raw. The doctors have told us to make her alert of this, so we'll tell her and she will stop, but only for a little while. We literally have to try to "train" it out of her---as much as I hate wording it that way, that's how the doctor put it.
It's like this when she makes her bed, cleans her room, does her homework, everything. Even when she's playing, it all has to go in a specific order that she's made up in her head. She's gotten better now that she's older, being a little more flexible with her "schedules" and being open to small changes.
Shannon also has EBD (emotional-behavioral disorder) with boarderline autistic tendencies (but she is not actually autistic), possible ADD, dysgraphia (which is improving a little---she can tie shoes and do big buttons now), dysphasia (which has gotten a lot better thanks to an awesome OT and speech program!), and anxiety/depression. Bipolar runs on my dad's side of the family, so they're watching for signs of that in Shan as she reaches her teen years. There's a lot of mental illnes that Shan's doctor's are watching her closely for as she gets older.
Shannon does have good social skills, many friends, and future ambitions. Her twin sister, Kelly, doesn't have any problems apart from speech when she was younger and a need to keep certain things in certain places. My mom also has boardline OCD, her and Kelly are nothing like Shannon. They're more organized, where Shannon's "rituals" are very time-consuming.
We'd just like to know if there's anything we could do to ease her anxieties and help her work through this? She's been getting better for a while, but her "schedules" keep getting worse as she grows. She's noticing that she'd different from other kids and she's becoming more aware of her diagnosies, and worried people will tease her---from there of course, the anxiety and depression goes up, and her progress goes down. We're sending her to Writing Without Tears this summer for two weeks for the dysgraphia, but we'd like to know if there is anything else? Therapies, little things at home, vitamins for thew anxiety? (We don't really like medicating...)
I thank you all for your replies and suggestions!
God bless!
~ Em
(PS I'm writing for everyone. This is my account so I'm copying notes my mom wrote down to this ask. Thanks!)