Hi and welcome to the OCD forum!
First of all let me say that It is really hard for people who do not have OCD to understand what you are going through. You "go off" because any challenge to your control of things drives you nuts and causes anxiety. When you think about it, they can only see these things as irrational while you know they are irrational but yet you cannot stop yourself.
There are a couple of things you can do. You can see a psychologist and learn some techniques to combat these compulsions. Usually they involve techniques where you do not give into the compulsion. For instance, you have to force yourself not to wash the cup or put things in place when they are not, etc. This is going to drive you crazy and cause anxiety so they will also teach you ways to combat the anxiety as well. Together these technqiues can break the OCD cycle.
There are also medications that are very effective for people with OCD. These medications are usually SSRIs or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. The premise is that there is not enough serotonin in your brain.
See below a blub I got from the web to describe how SSRIs work in a little bit more detail.
"SSRIs block the reabsorption (reuptake) of the neurotransmitter serotonin (ser-oh-TOE-nin) in the brain. Changing the balance of serotonin seems to help brain cells send and receive chemical messages, which in turn boosts mood. SSRIs are called selective because they seem to primarily affect serotonin, not other neurotransmitters."
The SSRIs are classified as anti-depressants but they are also used for people with OCD with success.
Lastly, there is a book that I read this past May that I found to be really useful. It is called Self-Coaching by Joseph Luciani. It is pretty cheap from Amazon. You can look up the reviews on it.
I think that covers it. You have a lot of options. You have to choose one that you think will work for both you and your family. For myself, I use both cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication. This combination is very effective.
I hope you find this useful. Remember, your family is clueless and simply cannot understand why we do what we do. They look at us like we have two heads, as if we didn't already know what we are doing is irrational. So be patient with them and ask them for their patience while you work your way to an OCD-free life.
This isn't weird, it is just compulsive behaviour. There are different types of therapy that can be used to help you. Speak to your doctor about getting this help.
Thank you for your feed back, finally someone who understands me. I have seen a doctor in the past but they just wanted to put me on anger meds.I will try and force myself not to rinse out cups and have everything perfect in my home. Once again thank you thank you!