compulsive staring

[bluestream006]

i have compulsive habbit of staring at the genitals of guys and girls . i am absolutely straigt but i can't help it ... does anyone relateto this problem and is there a cure

[SocialRecluse]

Me and my Mom have this OCD, it is not sexually motivated it is very involuntary and annoying more to us than to the person we are staring at.   I've had it his in my life for as far back as I could remember.  And it seems to get worse as I get older, I'm in my late 40's and I feel like I'm living only half of my life because now I avoid people so much now.  I'm looking for a support group of some kind and if there isn't one available, I'm willing to start one.

[boohuu]

I too recently like 7 months ago developed a weird anxiety about looking into peoples eyes, even my best friend. Then later it become even more weird when i'm in class and my brain is forcing me to focus on the person sitting next to me. Basically i can't help but creep people out with my peripheral vision staring thing. For some reason people notice that i'm peripheral staring at them and they get super creeped out and avoid to sit next to me in class. Sometimes i don't stare, but when i think about not staring is when i stare, and it happens all the time. I also developed another issue where i'm constantly staring at genitals. Like WTF? why i'm i doing this? My professor is completely creeped out by me and it gives him anxiety, therefore i develop an even more anxiety. It's creep to say the least, and it gives me social anxiety because once i do that to people especially in a class or a group of people, i can no longer be myself again, because i'm so embarrassed by may actions. So all of a sudden i developed social anxiety, OCD, and depression, because i'm constantly afraid of staring at people the wrong way, and not being able to control the urge to stare. I also have ADHD, so i take, but of course it isn't helping with my newly developed issues. I think i know how my staring at genital area developed though. One time i was dating this guy, and i didn't want to have sex, but he did. So whenever we were alone together i'll gaze over his ** to check if he was getting horny. Lol. And one night i convinced myself that he saw me look at his ****, so obsessed over it and it made me feel horrible. When i broke with him, i started dating another guy, and one day we were at a hooka bar, and i was sitting next to him and cuddly and what not, and my peripheral vision notice his *** was getting hard, so i freaked out. Lol. So people colleagues/social circle human noticed that i was looking....OMG....especially this one other guy that i was trying to hook up with that night. Anyways, ever since those weird episodes i stopped dating all together. became secluded, developed this weird creepy staring behavior, and to sum it all it makes me miserable in college and in work. I can no longer focus in class cause i'm constantly staring at the fat guy next to me, or the girl across from me boobs, and most importantly my professors****. Isn't that the weirdest **** ever?

[flpdout]

I have the same issue and it is hell on earth.  I have been suffering with it for over forty years.  I force myself to be with people bc that is what makes up our planet, and a part of me does not want to be a hermit.  It isn't easy moving out of your comfort circle. My advice, what helps me is that I keep saying this is only one part of who I am. There are many parts that are fantastic........

[apr123]

See my reply below considering potential physical factors- eg maybe wearing mouthguard-type appliance inconsistently could be causing  problems; otherwise generally avoiding 'exercises' pushing yourself to anxiety, and considering any unnatural/uncommon activities/appliances you wear for yourself (esp anything affecting head), ophth/optician checkup to rule out any significant eye issues.)

[VeeKay96]

Hi, at first I  thought only I had this compulsion to look at genitals until a year ago. I found out it was an OCD from a sight like this one. I'm 18 years old now. I was diagnosed with psychosis at 14 years old. I began having trouble controlling my urge to glance or look at males genitals when I started high school. I don't try to look, I don't want to look. But it's on my mind to not look therefore I do and it's frustrating. Some boys made fun of me calling me names. I pretended not to hear, it was soooo embarrassing. Throughout my high school year it became worse because I knew the boys in my class noticed. Luckily some ignored it and still was good friends with me.

The weird urge to look was at times not so strong and sometimes went away. But sometimes it was harrible. I began having the looking problem with male teachers. They never treated me differently, most people just ignored and pretending it wasn't happening. We kinda treated it like the pink elephant in the room kinda thing. While ones pacific boy always treated me differently because of it. Sometimes and very rarely the staring would happen with girls. But that never really happened and hasn't happen at all anymore. And certain boys I didn't feel the urge to look. I don't know why, it's like my OCD chooses types of people. The main boys it happened with was with popular boys or the people I didn't really communicate within my class. I guess because of the nerves of wanting to be accepted or not knowing them well brung out the OCD.

I am now 18 and graduated. Overall it didn't "ruin" my high school years it just put a damper on things. I feel I would have had more closer male friends if it wasnt for my OCD. I also have social anxiety. I sometimes have the genital staring problem with my dad but it's not bad. It's just a problem I have to deal with

I cope with my Compulsion by trying to look them in the eye or looking away or trying to focus on the conversation we are having a little more or block the lower part of their body with an object or something. Or I just simply avoid the person I feel will bring on my looking problem.

Next time I go to see my therapist I will have to work up the nerves to tell her. Because I want help with this, to make it go away or be less extreme. I'm just soooo scared and embarist to bring it up to her. I don't even know how. But I will, hell she already knows my other deepest secrets. So wtf, I'll do it!

[guardian003]

Yea, ok I'll start a new thread. Thanks

[JGF25]

I mentioned above that this is an old thread.  Why don't you start a new one with a bit more detail about what you are going through so that people an respond to you directly.  

[guardian003]

Anyone else going to college with this disease? I'm supposed to start this september