Hi and welcome! OCD is such a tricky thing to deal with. I'm sorry you deal with that. I think that whirlwind of obsessive thought can be very difficult. The thing that some don't realize is that a mental health issue like ocd doesn't always fit neatly in a box and can be different for different people. It's so hard when that inner dialogue just won't stop and you become obsessed with it. I'm sorry you deal with that! What is your 'worst case scenario' from that night? That you kissed your friend's husband? While your boyfriend was there? Granted, that's not a great thing but in all honesty, you were drunk. You probably didn't do it and if you did, it's probably forgotten by all parties. I'd assume it didn't happen unless the other person (the friend's husband) and says to you it happened. But remember, they have a lot to lose by it as well. Their wife might have a big issue with it, right? So, this is one of those things that happened and we try to learn from it. Oh my gosh, I've had a few of those myself! Bitter lessons, right? What can we learn? To be careful when drinking. That is not a criticism in any way! I think most people learn this the hard way. Really, I know I did. It's so socially normal to drink. And when you have ocd and anxiety, I think the tendency to drink a bit more to subconsciously help that can happen.
So, for the ocd and anxiety, what do you do for that? Are you seeing a therapist or anything? Considering medication? I know there are a lot of really great resources online for ocd. Work books that help give coping tools. Have you ever checked any of those out?
I have to ask, what exactly does it mean you "just" found out you have OCD? Generally an anxiety problem as severe as OCD would be something you would have been quite aware of. It sounds like you're a worrier and have some sort of anxiety going on, but what you're describing isn't at all what OCD is so more info might be useful here. For those of us with an anxiety problem, alcohol can be a really bad thing. It can bring out anxiety attacks because it is disorienting and often also affects our balance, which can be a definite trigger for an anxiety attack. But for those of us who are like that, we certainly couldn't drink enough to get "quite drunk." That's a whole other problem if that's something you do on a regular basis. If you're a binge drinker who drinks to the point of blanking out, again, that's eventually going to present problems in your life. It may be worth it or not depending on your lifestyle. But when we're that drunk, it's kind of hard to not end up doing things we regret later if we're the kind of people who regret things. But again, that's also not OCD. That's regret.