I am having an issue with my 2 year old daughter. She is a little too young to be diagnosed with anything, but she is having some OCD tendencies, primarily with the order of how things are done. She might be on the autistic spectrum, but at 2 is too young for our doctor to figure out (we're seeing a top developmental pediatrician, so we are seeing a specialist and he said it's too early to tell but she had a lot of tendencies and either had autism or OCD or something else or nothing with tendencies towards all of those)...
Anyways, to get to the topic at hand... she likes to put her clothes and shoes on in a certain order. Left arm before right, left pant leg before right, and left shoe before right. Well, I didn't realize but I always put my left shoe on before my right shoe. But now my daughter wants me to put my shoes on with my right shoe first. She has a meltdown if I do it in my order instead of hers, and they're my feet, not hers!! She can put her left shoe on first on her feet all she wants. I don't care what order she does her own shoes. Why should she bug me about what order I do my own shoes? So, do I change my order, and get over it (my feet really feel just totally wrong for the first half hour of wearing them unless I take them off and put them back on), or do I stand my ground? I mean, I guess i have to worry if I don't stand my ground, if she sees some stranger putting their shoes on with left before right, she might freak out in public. And why does she get to put her left shoe on before her right and make me put my right on first?