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fear of sperm
Every time i go to the bathroom, i have to clean it because i fear sperm is somewhere on the toilet, toilet paper ( I'll always grab a new roll ) and i might get pregnant, i fear it's in my soap ( i have these thoughts right when i use it : what if a man did a cruel joke and put sperm in there ), in my summers eve wipes ( same thing i think about the soap), anything i touch. I feel that it's everywhere and I'm just going to get pregnant. I know that it's silly and i keep telling myself that, but i just can't get over it and it's all i think about ... Any help or advice ? Thanks.
If you have health insurance, you should be able to see a psychologist. I wish I could tell you that OCD goes away, it doesn't BUT it can be controlled and you can live a normal life free of these silly thoughts. Good Lord, if I tried to write down the stupid thoughts I have had, I would be here all night. So please give some thought to seeing a psychologist so that you can learn to help yourself. That is the key.
Thanks meemoll, awesome advice very good way to look it at. lee2288, looks like we just might have to get help it is the only solution.
Wow I have the exact same fear!!! It is terrible, it is ruining my life! I'm so obsessive that I take pregnancy tests every day to make sure I am not pregnant from sperm that may be on everyday things. How can I overcome this?
I went through this same fear, so you are not alone. I was terrified that every time I used a toilet that I would get pregnant. Through behavior therapy and medication I am much better now although occassionally I will get triggered. The problem is that even though we know the fear is irrational, it still feels real. We have to learn to say I am going to face this uncertainty, what is the likelihood my worst fear will come true, and if this totally bizarre and unlikely thing were to happen to me then I would deal with it. Sometimes that helps me face down the fear and move on. It is tough I know.
Yeah i wish it would to :/ it's a pain. Even when i try to face my fears it just gets worse, like i took a bath and used my body wash ( but i didn't leave it in the bathroom like i usually do ) , and after a little later i used my vaginal wipes, and the thought is there to haunt me " what if there is sperm ! Your gonna get pregnant " then i wipe myself allot and yeah not good ... Ugh.. but yes i am going look into some help because i just feels like my life is so stressful and ruined, i just wanna thank you once again. It's always nice to talk to someone who understand the feeling
I'm 25, i honestly don't know what made this thought come. I have it bad at work as well, but with money. I count and make sure i have everything, but then i keep thinking what if i dropped something, and then I'll just have a bad day because my thoughts go out of control thinking the worst. Also when i have to use the public bathroom i freak out, but i have no choice i try not to touch the toilet seat but i keep thinking what if i did, then the worst comes to mind. I wanna say when i started takeing a diet supplement, is when i started, it would make me moody, I'm on bc as well. I wanna thank you so much for your time, i haven't been able to vent to anyone, feels good to get this off my chest, but your right i do need help i just don't know how to begin ...
crazy pills....LOL I take those pills and I am anything but crazy. Your friend obviously doesn't know the first thing about OCD.
How old are you? You said it started 3 months ago...did something change in your life? Did you have some kind of stressful event?
Let me tell you what a psychologist will do. First they will evaluate you and diagnose you. If you have OCD, they will talk to you about a treatment plan which would include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This is an invaluable tool that helps you to retrain your brain. I use it as well and I especially used it for the number of years I was not on medication but obviously not OCD free. Psychologists cannot prescribe medication so they cannot put you on "crazy pills." CBT is the first place to start. You have to be committed to getting better by practicing the exercises.
Ultimately OCD is a chemical imbalance in our brains...a neurotransmitter imbalance. Medication can help with that imbalance. Medication however does come with side effects. There are many out there and they all have different side effects. One particularly nasty one for most of them is that they make the anxiety worse in the beginning until about 4 to 6 weeks later when they are fully working. That anxiety subsides and you would feel so much better. The medications allow us to think the thought (which even "normal" people do) and let it go.
So CBT and medication are a powerful combination BUT CBT should always be taught first because it may be that you can get by without medication. So try to find a psychologist that teaches CBT for OCD.
How old are you? You said it started 3 months ago...did something change in your life? Did you have some kind of stressful event?
Let me tell you what a psychologist will do. First they will evaluate you and diagnose you. If you have OCD, they will talk to you about a treatment plan which would include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This is an invaluable tool that helps you to retrain your brain. I use it as well and I especially used it for the number of years I was not on medication but obviously not OCD free. Psychologists cannot prescribe medication so they cannot put you on "crazy pills." CBT is the first place to start. You have to be committed to getting better by practicing the exercises.
Ultimately OCD is a chemical imbalance in our brains...a neurotransmitter imbalance. Medication can help with that imbalance. Medication however does come with side effects. There are many out there and they all have different side effects. One particularly nasty one for most of them is that they make the anxiety worse in the beginning until about 4 to 6 weeks later when they are fully working. That anxiety subsides and you would feel so much better. The medications allow us to think the thought (which even "normal" people do) and let it go.
So CBT and medication are a powerful combination BUT CBT should always be taught first because it may be that you can get by without medication. So try to find a psychologist that teaches CBT for OCD.
Yes, it is crazy what our minds can do ! It frustrates me because i never once ever thought this way. It all started like 3 months ago i wanna say. i have thought about help, a friend told me they will put me on crazy pills and make it worse ...
Obviously this is an irrational thought. You know it is an irrational thought because you deemed it "silly." There isn't going to be anonymous sperm on any of your items but that is really not the crux of the problem here, it is merely the "problem now." It is pretty amazing what our minds can conjure up to torture ourselves with. What other "thoughts" plague you and how long has this been going on and more importantly have you ever sought the help of a psychologist for them?
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