I know you are scared, Any surgey is nerve racking. I print out pictures of my favorite things. Vacations, my pets, my husband, my friends, pretty scenes, and art work. I take these to the hoispital I look at them before surgery and after surgery. It calms me down. I also have an I-Pod with music I like. Any thing besides surgery you can focus on. I have gotten so relaxed.
I do not know what the cut off is for laproscopic surgery. I would think they could still do it laproscopically. I knew a lady who had the full hysterectomy. She was so big they had to use a mechanical lift to get her into bed.
I have had my face reconstructed, two knee surgeries, a large cyst on my butt removed,wisdom teeth taken out, jaw surgery, tubal ligation, my gall bladder removed, removal of a kidney stone the size of an almond, the stirrup replaced in my inner ear, and the full cancer surgery,and two ports put in and one taken out. I have had no problems with all those surgeries.
The more you can distract yourself and the calmer you can be the easier the surgeries go. It is like getting a shot if you tense up it hurts bit if you relax the muscle you might not feel it. I used to give myself shots in the muscle every day.