Could You Ladies PLEASE HELP ME I dont understand

[henning]

I want to thank all of you who have helped me get the answers  when I asked a question, Comforted me when I needed comforting told me me to relax and take a deep breathe and for the wisdom.  Becuz before I came to this forum I didnt know anything. And I am going to my appt March 24th a more confient woman than I was before.  Thank you.  I felt comfortable enough to confide in some embarassing symptoms, yet no one made fun nor was my posting such a question interupted by certain ones to say "my wife is doing fine" or "my wife is alive and thats all that counts" I probably would have never came back to this forum. And becuz of some folks here posting replys that have nothing to do with who posted it or who are taking advantage of those who are facing there worst fears-thats alright.  Where is the humanity.

I now that none of you know me but you gave me the dignity that everyone here deserves.  And I understand that people have their own opinions but when does opinion cross over that line? Because obvisouly I dont know.  I expressed my opinion  yet they have been earsed. Yet other folks here are able to post and say how they feel, without ever giving any regards to the person who posted them.  I just find it heartbreaking.

A reply that states my wife is alive and thats what counts- than I am happy for you- and yes that does count-but not under someone who has posted to pour out their heart and fears.  No- it dont belong there. And if I had posted it and read it....

That is my questions to you ladies...when does opinion cross the line and when does humanity not count anymore.  Becuz I just dont understand.
Penny

[gah_70]

Hi Penny,

I understand your frustration with some of the posts.  Every now and then, there seems to be a post that has nothing to do with the question at hand, and it can sometimes seem cruel or at the very least, misplaced.  That's just one of the issues we sometimes face with a public forum.  The forum belongs to all of us, and we can't stop people from posting.  I think it isn't the intention of most people to be cold or heartless, but it does sometimes come across that way.  I happen to agree with you about so-called miracle cures, etc., but the best way to handle a post such as that is to report it to Medhelp.  There is a link at the bottom of each post you can click to catigorize such a post as "abuse" or "spam".  If you aren't sure how to catigorize it, just click "spam", and it will alert Medhelp moderators to look at the post.  If they agree the post is offensive in any way, they will remove it.  You may also message Mid or me, and we'll do what we can to help you out.  

Marty is right.  There have been problems in the past that affected some of the members here greatly, and in turn, some are a bit hesitant to post an opinion or answer until they are absolutely sure the issue is real.  That may not always be the best way to handle all situations, but again...being a public forum, that's how some choose to protect themselves.  I would like to encourage you to fill out your profile a little with the information with which you feel comfortable.  It will help us get to know you better, and possibly even help us answer any questions you have.  

I'm glad you are posting here.  Everyone makes a difference, so please don't let today's issues keep you from coming back.  If you have any questions about anything at all, let us know.  In addition to Mid and I, there are several "old-timers" who would also be more than happy to help.  

Gail

[henning]

My heart goes out to you. Thank you. I dont understand why some of my post or even to post a question was erased. Well the new question post  I think  was becuz I named names and  annouced what they were doing.

I was just so mortified.  And I posted some things about them and what they were doing. Im not going to apologize for what I did, it was my personal opinion. Yet they were erased.

These folks have no compassion to those who are facing their worst fears and they  reply back with a- my wife is alive and thats what counts. I was looking at a post with so many well wishes and I came upon that (wife alive).  This happened several times durning the day. And these folks only posted to the ones that were facing  their most worst fears. I found that to be appauling, that someone would be that cruel to
post a reply like that. I took it as- see what happens if you follow standard treatments. I dont know if anyone else felt this way but I do.
Penny



Marty I would never pass judgement on anyone and I am staying right here. I just get angry that they allow them to post a reply. I realize that

[SimplyStar]

Many of us on here are "old timers"  we try to answer each and every post to the best of our ability. We do like it when  the posters fill in the profile, because we have had problems in the past with  fasle posters.  When scammers come on here, we know and usually one or more of us will set them straight and will ask MedHelp to remove the post. We have 2 moderators here , Gail and Mid, it is their responsibility to kinda regulate the posts.  Most posts are read and evaluated by those of us that feel like answering them. there are many kinds of posts, some happy  and some sad, some that need advice and others that just want to pass the time of day with us,  I used to hand out lots of advice, but since I lost my daughter it has been more to encourage  than advise. Most of these gals have been going through a lot of distress for years, and it gets kinda old sometimes  to hear a comstant string of complaints.  I am not trying to be judgemental,  but just wait a while  and get to know us better before you pass on judgement.   Marty