Final stages of ovarian cancer?

[ColleenA]

My mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer 2 1/2 years ago.  She has had 8 different types of chemo therapy and at the last Dr's visit was told there is nothing else that can be done for her.

I want to be as supportive as possible, and am wondering if I knew what she was going to be going through could I be of more help to her?  Or am I really strange for even wanting to know?

Thanks, Colleen

[Jjohane]

I am slowly losing my mother after being diagnosed with ovarian cancer 5 years ago.  Right now my sister and I along with our husbands are there for mom.  She is so thin but keeps going strong.  Our guess is that her heart will give out and that will be it.  I cannot believe the pain in my heart every night I leave the hospice, it just kills me.  I pray for anyone dealing with this or any other loss they are going through. It is so difficult watching your parent become like little children who need you, just devestating.  My heart goes out to al of you.
My only advice is to be there, listen and give permission for them to let go whenever they feel ready.  Most of all get prayers said and believe in God to take them home where they now must go.

God bless all of you.

Johane

[RavenLady]

I am so sorry Colleen!  It sounds like your Mom is home and that's good, are you close by?  I hope so!  I found with both my Father-inLaw (who passed away from lynphoma after a valient battle) and my Dad a couple years ago (pancreatic cancer) that the Hospice Nurses were the best source of information.  They were always willing to answer all my questions and some I had not even thought of yet.  I do recall that both my Dads  appreciated massages the most.  Ernie, my FIL, said it was like having leprosy in that people seem to be afraid to touch you once you are diagnosed with cancer.  Just a back rub or holding hands can make such a difference.  And don't forget to take care of you Colleen!  We are here for you Cyster of the Battalion!  MV

[ColleenA]

Oh I thought more details might be helpful.  Mom's CA125 count is 3400 and that was over a week ago.  She has had fluid drained from her abdomen twice.  The first time there were 5 quarts of fluid.  I watched the whole thing.  The second time there wasn't quite 2 quarts.  
I just talked to her; she said she didn't quite make it to the bathroomin time today, plus she vomited.  She hadn't eaten yet when this happened this morning.
She doesn't have much of an appetite and gets heart burn if she eats much.
Thanks, Colleen

[ColleenA]

Thank you so much everyone!  I am very touched at all of your responses.
I did go see her yesterday, and we talk daily on the phone. She isn't eating much, but still gets around the house okay.

Bigred I would appreciate hearing the details about your grandmother; I realize everyone is not the same, but there must be some basic similarities.

I know Mom is worried about her kids, she told me a few months ago that she needed to stick around until she was sure I was happy.
Your support and prayers are much appreciated, Colleen

[fungirl]

Colleen,
I am so sorry to hear that your mother and you are going through so much.  You are such a good daughter and I know your mother is comforted knowing that you are there for her to cry with and to laugh with.  I know how hard this must be for you, but please know that we are here for you when you need us.  My prayers will be with your mom and with you.  Kasie

[fancy1972]

I am so sorry to hear of your mother having to go through this and for you..Just stay strong for her because she is going to need you ...Almost three years ago i lost my best friend to ovca.Thought she was in remission and by the time they found it again it was everywhere and the chemo didnot help..When they told her they were stopping the chemo they started sending hospice out to check on her.. she was young ,not to much older than me and i am 33.Your mom is gonna need ya to talk to ,to cry to ,but she is gonna need the reassurance in the end that it is ok to let go..Moms worry so much about there children ,that in the end it is really hard for them to let go..So if possible just let her know that you and yours are gonna be ok..I know that was one of the hardest part for her was wondering how i was gonna be after she was gone ..Crying always seem to help us ..We would sit and just talk about things that she had accomplished in her life and the happy moments that she had so givingly shared with others...i know that you will miss her but where she will be going will be so much better than what she is going through now..if you need to know anything or just need comforting or someone to listen to ya cry,scream or etc....you find one of us to lean on and i promise it will all be ok...My heart goes out to you ..Hugggggggggggs and prayersssssssss  lou