could my mum beat this

[bowdene]

hi everybody my mum is on such a downer at the moment she as had oc for over 2 years and had three reucurances which was followed taxol chemo then she had another type of chemo cant think what it was called but caused her hand to burn badly,so they stopped it and put her on tamoxifen, but since being on them i dont know if it coincidence or what but she as felt so unwell she as know energy whats so ever and always being sick or feeling sick and has terrible indesgetion problemsand as lost56 lbs in weight,she as always been such a stong person and the back bone to are family she is the love of my life and when she is low it just breaks my heart, i have been to see her this morning and she was sobbing saying she thin ks this will be her last christmas with us as she feels so unwell, i feel like i cant hold it togeather and i have a son whos 7 and really excited for santa and im just not in the christams mood but i am trying my best  so its caused arguments between me and my husband but i cant help it, do you think even tho she is feeling like this she could still beat it, im sorry to sound so depressing but i just need to speak to someone who understands what we are going through.

[bowdene]

thank you so much for your support i do really gater strenghth from  this web site as you all understand my mum dose seem a little bit better today and not weepy so just have to take every day as it comes thanks again ladies and hope you have a lovely christmas and a healther new year all my love clare xx

[YvonneS]

Hi, I am so sorry your Mum is having a ad time.  I have been doing this 2 1/2 years and I knowher frustration.  Shereally needs to be on a antidepressant.  It has helped me so much.  I still get down, but I have been able to contol the crying and feelign sorry for myself.  I start my 7th chemo on Christmas day.  Not happy about it either and really considering not doing it.  Just don't want to be sick anymore.  God bless you.  Yvonne

[Helmar]

Hello...I'm so sorry to hear that your Mum isn't doing so well, and I just want to say, from a personal point of view...I think she needs something stronger than Tamoxifen. I've had both Tamoxifen and Femara, and neither did anything for me... just sent my numbers up. Ovarian cancer is such a nasty disease, I always feel more comfortable with IV chemo... and preferably two at a time. My Oncol. tells me that in a lot of cases, this is treated as a 'chronic disease' and so your Mum could very well go on for many more years, but I just think she needs to get back to her Oncol. and see what else is on offer. If she is not getting, what she considers, the right answers, then maybe it's time to gather up another opinion or two from other Oncols. Time is of the essence with this disease, and it doesn't wait around for anyone. Try and get something on the go so that your Mum doesn't get more ill. This insidious disease affects all members of a family, but try not to fight with your hubby. That will only put stress on your marriage, which you don't want, and hopefully he will always be there to support you through the worrying times.
I hope your little boy has a lovely Christmas, as that's what little kids look so forward too.... and you and your Mum can enjoy his delight too. Hugs to you both....Helen...

[vegas2cr]

I am sending you hugs.. Not one of us who suffers from Ovarian cancer has an answer to your question.  Sometimes it is easy for us to get down and depressed especially around the holidays.  Support your Mum as much as you can and she know you love her... For your son's sake try to put on a smiley face but in my opinion he needs to understand why you are so sad... Hes not too young in my opinion..My 6 year old grandson knows I am sick from cancer and asks solid questions...
Your Mum also needs a consult with her oncologist on her next step to help her into a remission again... I send you my best wishes... and wish I could help more.. Ronni