feeling overwhelmed now

[helenl89]

anyone on line now, feeling very bad, all of a sudden very depressed, not liking what i'm thinking, feel like can't take it any more, need some real words of encourenment. please email me at site or  my e mail Helenl892aol.com

[vegas2cr]

Please tell me who you are since with chemo brainI do not recognize your name.. and then we can talk... Ronni

[helenl89]

I am Helenl89  was feeling fine ealier but in thue last hr feel real bad

[helenl89]

feel like in real trouble what i do

[ireneo]

Feeling bad emotionally? Got a friend you can call? It's still early enough. You need to be with someone even if it's by phone. Turn on some lights, put on a ridiculous movie, anything to distract your mind from those thoughts. Do a crossword puzzle. Not always fun but it helps. That's what I do in the middle of the night when my mind takes off on a bad track.

[vegas2cr]

I am assuming you have ovarian cancer?  What stage what are taking what are you doing.. tell me about YOU.

[Jan214]

Helen, it will get better. You have only been off of chemo a couple of months and it takes way more than that to feel normal.  Given your stage there is a good chance you won't have to go through this again.  Some of us have been doing this for years and you learn to adjust.  After my initial treatment I found that I expected, and those around me expected that I would feel right as rain as soon as chemo stopped.  It doesn't work that way.  This garbage (chemo) can stay in our systems for over a year after we stop. You will have days where you would swear you just had a chemo treatment.  Don't push yourself.  I know you are anxious to get back to your active life, but the rest of us weren't exactly sitting around on our butts waiting for cancer to hit us, and we have managed to eek out some sort of life even with multiple recurrences. Like I said though with stage 2 your odds are a lot better than most on here, so just be patient with yourself.
Jan

[helenl89]

This is why I am on line now to hopefully distract myself and just start to feel a litle better, oh by the way in the last month I have dealt with my daughter moving out she's not even 19 yet, I don't think she's dealing with this well, but won't talk to anyone, My parentys ae both very ill and I am tying to take of them, going on since i was in chemo , had to take them up from fl arange living space and take to d's appts. yet I have two bros who are like laurel and hardy when it comes to this stuff. and let's not forget the ex husb who is ill himself with some serious lung problems. I just want to scream some days. no wonder i feel overwhelmed. I m taking care of everybody else but me. Jut need to vent a bit I think I'm going to take a ativan and go lie down soon

[bohan54]

This type of melt down happened to me last week.  It will pass, I promise.  If the Ativan helps you sleep, that is what you need.  I hope you are not alone, if so, perhaps call a friend or even a brother.  Maybe when they see how hard this is for you, they will learn something.   If you can, try to just focus on just one thing.  You have a lot going on that would overwhelm anyone, much less a recovering cancer patient.  
We are here.
Sharon

[helenl89]

thanks hun starting to feel a little better, it just gets to me some days, I'm not a complainer usually. there are  aolt worse people out there than I am I should feel thankfull for what I do have. quess i just needed a little help ight now thanks every one for just listening.  I think I weill go cuddle up with the cat and hope tommorow will be a better day, xcuse mis spellings get fogged out alot.

[crecco]

Helen,
   We all have days like that. Thankfully they do get further apart as time goes by. But in the meantime, try to come up with things to do that will keep you busy physically or mentally or both. And don't feel that there is any thing wrong with you for having times like this. I think it goes along with it all.
   For this evening, try soaking in a hot bubble bath to help relieve your stress. And remember, tomorrow is a new and different day.
   Chris

[dian07]

Hey there girl.....how are you doing today?  So many cysters responded to you yesterday I am certain it must have helped to feel all that love, compassion and concern.  Nice to be loved, huh?
Please do touch base when you are able.
Peace.
dian

[bohan54]

She's alright, fixin dinner etc like us gals have to do.

[KAY17]

I am sending you a lot of love and some fresh air some roses along the way to smell and feel good about....this is just another day that will pass and make you stronger and better...wishing you were close so I could give you a hug...lots of love

[slee56]

I know how you feel exactly as I too have felt the same way as you did... It is hard to have cancer of any type ..... We have to take time and find ways of destressing and being able to enjoy the simple things in life...
Yesterday I went and talked to a counserlor about things that were bothering me and that helped as her advice of not to worry made sence.  That is when we tend to get really down and feeling more or less helpless and worrying won't change the outcome of whats going on. Hugs and letting you know i care.... slee56

[momofsandj]

Antidepressants are wonderful things -- maybe you should consider them -- they've helped me a great deal

Jeanne

[sandee3]

This is a word of encouragement from the QUEEN of meltdowns.  I was DX with Stage IIIC Ov Ca in late Jan of this yr.  I WAS  sure I was going to die and soon from this disease.  I dread night time b/c that means another day is over and closer to my demise.  I was miserable with fear and anxiousness for months.  Then I decided to turn it over to GOD.  If HE can get me to it, then HE can get me through it.  I am walking on 'the side of wellness' now and my state of mind is much  healthier.  This is not to assume that I still don't have meltdowns, I DO.  Fear is a difficult entity to deal with.  When I feel it creeping up on me, I physically say, "NO, we are not doing this today."  In fact, I have been asked to speak at a local womens' group here next Monday night.  My talk is  entitled:  Finding Peace in the midst of the storm.  I am going to share my life story, quickly, in about 45 minutes--from Br Ca at 39 to OvCa at 49!  Whew, what a story it will be.  I have more character than any three people need.  Anyway, justed wanted to share with you, that you are not alone.....not even for a second.  My thoughts and prayers are very close to you right this very moment.

In His Love,
Sandee

[helenl89]

All of you are  great, It really meant so much to me that you all reached out and helped me that night. the luv and understanding is beyond words, lots of you knew exactly how i felt and you got me thru it. I am hoping moments like that will become few and far between, be patient with me, if i sound off sometimes I'm glad everyone is there to help me thru it. it relly is a sisterhood. I am so glad junmegen told me about this websit, its been a real lifesaver  hugs to everyone. ***@****

[ireneo]

It's so good to hear from you again. I know there will always be bad days (and nights) now and then but I'm wishing you mostly good days and nights from now on. I'm glad you were able to come here for support and understanding. These women know what it's like to walk in those shoes. Hugs,  Irene

[helenl89]

busy week for helenl work dr's appt, parents friend and relatives etc everyone try to have a happy thanksgiving. i apologize if i don;t get back to anyone this week. will try to let know dr update wens night.