is there a pill for grief?
Sadness over the loss of your future when you have a life threatening illness will not go away with an antidepressant. Anti depressants and anti-anxiety medications can blunt the terrible pain of loss and will definitely treat clinical depression. But these pills do not change the reality of what your mother is facing.
Pastoral care, counseling, family conversations, and being present are ways to give comfort and to give meaning to both the person who is ill and to their family.
One of the tragedies that Dr Gawande addresses in his article "Letting Go" is that when realistic discussions about prognosis are not given, patients and families are subjected to toxic therapies that have no benefit. People with life threatening illness may pass away without having a chance to tell their families important things and to say goodbye.
Megace is used increase appetite.
If chemotherapy is not killing cancer cells, then just giving it to do something only gives toxic side effects and can actually shorten life
not giving chemotherapy and just concentrating on alleviating suffering will actually improve quality of life .
I know this is terribly, terribly hard