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motherof2cuteones
I saw your other posting and am wondering...how would I know if I am getting a bladder infection? I don't actually have discomfort when I pee but just a weird feeling. I am still wearing a pad for I guess discharge from surgery so I can't tell if there is blood in there from an infection or surgery? Sorry to be gross!! It is nice to pee and feel that relief these days...I'd only trickle before.
Also, did it hurt getting staples out? I get mine out tomorrow. I read in here getting waxed is worse but I only get my eyebrows done LOL! and that kills me. I am very fair so I don't do it much...and never down there LOL! I am nervouse but anxious...these things freak me out. I guess I'll ask my obgyn about the bladder infection then...to check it out.
I feel really good though. I can't wait to just go go go again. My kids are going to be like who is this new mommy? I was pregnant with Abby most of Madaline's 1st year and most of Abby's 1st year I've just been exhausted!
I am not sure yet if I want them to see me hairless...they probably won't remember but I guess I want to keep things normal for them. Any thoughts?
Also, did it hurt getting staples out? I get mine out tomorrow. I read in here getting waxed is worse but I only get my eyebrows done LOL! and that kills me. I am very fair so I don't do it much...and never down there LOL! I am nervouse but anxious...these things freak me out. I guess I'll ask my obgyn about the bladder infection then...to check it out.
I feel really good though. I can't wait to just go go go again. My kids are going to be like who is this new mommy? I was pregnant with Abby most of Madaline's 1st year and most of Abby's 1st year I've just been exhausted!
I am not sure yet if I want them to see me hairless...they probably won't remember but I guess I want to keep things normal for them. Any thoughts?
Well I just got back home from the hospital yesterday. Remember I mentioned my smelly discharge. Well it got worse so I called the gyn oncol who was on vacation. His calls were forwarded to answ svc who told me to go to ER. I figured it's a UTI or vaginal infection I'll get an antibiotic and be on my way. Well, they introduced me to a Fistula. How gross. It's when a hold develops at the top of vagina & somewhere else...and they didn't know where mine might be if I had one. They paged my doc who had me admitted. Now let me remind you it was Labor Day weekend so Sunday I sat in ER from 3pm to 11pm before finally getting a room. I was not allowed to eat or drink anything as they wanted to do a CAT scan to see if they could find the hole. The scan was at 1130pm only to show nothing. Monday I got pumped full of 4 bags of antiobiotics and sat around and did NOTHING all day. Approx 6 different kinds of docs and surgeons came to see me, made me repeat the details of how I smell (my poor roommate knew it by heart by the end!) checked my incision only to say someone would be back. Monday was awful. By the end of the day I cried at everything. I just wanted to go home. Finally bright and early Tuesday morning my gyn oncol comes in barks a bunch of orders at people. I got a Barium Enema (horrific) was told I did NOT have a fistula only an abcess and UTI got a prescription for antibiotics and was discharged by 2pm. Now I know the only reason I sat there was because my doc was on vacation and it was a holiday. HORRIBLE! I gotta hand it to my doc though...he made stuff happen. I think the worst part of it all was other than being smelly I felt fine. So I am home and resting and feeling much better!
As for your insecurities...STOP!! You don't know a single soul in Italy!!! Who cares!! You are an amazing woman and your husband loves you no matter what. Enjoy it. Do it all. Don't regret laying around in a bathing suit or even less for that matter! LOL! I hope you have an fabulous trip and say hi to George for me :)
I too wish there was a different way to chat from this site...I dunno? Everyone who actually chats on here seems honest and harmless...I guess it's those that don't? Again...dunno.
Write when you get back! Lori
As for your insecurities...STOP!! You don't know a single soul in Italy!!! Who cares!! You are an amazing woman and your husband loves you no matter what. Enjoy it. Do it all. Don't regret laying around in a bathing suit or even less for that matter! LOL! I hope you have an fabulous trip and say hi to George for me :)
I too wish there was a different way to chat from this site...I dunno? Everyone who actually chats on here seems honest and harmless...I guess it's those that don't? Again...dunno.
Write when you get back! Lori
I am so sorry to hear of your popularity! just kidding.
I know - visitors can wear you out. it gets old saying the same thing OVER and OVER and having to reassure everyone that you are fine...doesn't it?
Sleep is our friend. My 12 year old son likes to joke about how much I sleep - but I can't help it! i can't get to sleep unti like 4 AM - so of course i have a hard time waking up at 7 or 8. you know?
Well, my trip to Italy is still in the planning stages - and yes, we leave in 1 week! we were planning on spending our 2nd week on the Amalfi Coast but now i'm trying to figure out if i still want to do that b/c i'm not feeling so great about myself in a swimsuit anymore and i don't know if laying out in the sun is really what i want to be doing. you know? the first week we are going to be in northern italy - half of the time on lake como (yes, george clooney has a villa there....) and the other half in the italian alps and visiting vineyards. and we were going to spend one night in vencie b/c i love venice and i want to take a gondola ride with my husband in the moonlight.
both my husband and myself studied italian in college and we studied in florence (he was there 10 years before me). so, we are both somewhat familiar with italy and the language and we wanted this trip to be more about the topography and the landscape than the art and the architecture. you know?
so, there you go! i'll have to come up with some sort of website when i get back and i'll post the pictures for you to see!
sorry about the rain. we had a lot of rain about a week ago. my husband just got home from NYC last night. had i known you were in NJ - i would have had him stop by and do a singing telegram - just for kicks! i have a brother outside of boston. and my husband has s dear friend in NJ. perhaps some day we can meet. I'm in exciting Kansas City!!!! i don't know the rules about this forum. are we allowed to pass along personal info in order to keep in touch? i know nothing.
oh dear.
hey! do you feel a little disoreinted mentally speaking? i swear i think my husband had them do a labotomy while i was in surgery b/c i can't think straight and i don't remember things and i used to ALWAYS remember EVERYTHING. this is a bit disconcerting. oh well.
i'm on melatonin now - 3 mg. it really is helping with the sleep (i say that 1 night into it...but i'm hopeful).
okay - get rest; eat well; wear a tiara around the house to remind yourself how special you are; hug your girls; dance with your husband; and take a good long look at the moon.
glad to see you doing well,
laura
I know - visitors can wear you out. it gets old saying the same thing OVER and OVER and having to reassure everyone that you are fine...doesn't it?
Sleep is our friend. My 12 year old son likes to joke about how much I sleep - but I can't help it! i can't get to sleep unti like 4 AM - so of course i have a hard time waking up at 7 or 8. you know?
Well, my trip to Italy is still in the planning stages - and yes, we leave in 1 week! we were planning on spending our 2nd week on the Amalfi Coast but now i'm trying to figure out if i still want to do that b/c i'm not feeling so great about myself in a swimsuit anymore and i don't know if laying out in the sun is really what i want to be doing. you know? the first week we are going to be in northern italy - half of the time on lake como (yes, george clooney has a villa there....) and the other half in the italian alps and visiting vineyards. and we were going to spend one night in vencie b/c i love venice and i want to take a gondola ride with my husband in the moonlight.
both my husband and myself studied italian in college and we studied in florence (he was there 10 years before me). so, we are both somewhat familiar with italy and the language and we wanted this trip to be more about the topography and the landscape than the art and the architecture. you know?
so, there you go! i'll have to come up with some sort of website when i get back and i'll post the pictures for you to see!
sorry about the rain. we had a lot of rain about a week ago. my husband just got home from NYC last night. had i known you were in NJ - i would have had him stop by and do a singing telegram - just for kicks! i have a brother outside of boston. and my husband has s dear friend in NJ. perhaps some day we can meet. I'm in exciting Kansas City!!!! i don't know the rules about this forum. are we allowed to pass along personal info in order to keep in touch? i know nothing.
oh dear.
hey! do you feel a little disoreinted mentally speaking? i swear i think my husband had them do a labotomy while i was in surgery b/c i can't think straight and i don't remember things and i used to ALWAYS remember EVERYTHING. this is a bit disconcerting. oh well.
i'm on melatonin now - 3 mg. it really is helping with the sleep (i say that 1 night into it...but i'm hopeful).
okay - get rest; eat well; wear a tiara around the house to remind yourself how special you are; hug your girls; dance with your husband; and take a good long look at the moon.
glad to see you doing well,
laura
Staples were no biggie. My girlfriend picked me up and took me to lunch prior to the appt. I was so tired after it all. It was my first day out. The staples hurt less than a pinching. They kind of oozed the first day but it's better now. I still have discharge (down there) and not to be gross but it's smelly. I asked the doc about it and he said it's like when you have a wound inside your mouth...because it's moist there can be an odor. UGH! This just keeps getting better. I want to pass out. Actually today it is less severe. I keep apologizing to visitors who swear they don't smell it. I went through something similar after my first baby and being cut since she was a nine pounder.
I TOTALLY get what you meant when you said just conversations with your 3 year old could be exhausting. This week did me in. Between my 2 and 1 year old girls I also had every day one mother in law, one 7 year old cousin to help, and a visitor almost every day. Yesterday, that included 2 20something parents of a 1 year old. I just couldn't take any more stimulation and went to bed at 7pm. It's crazy raining here in NJ due to the storms moving up the coast and I am glad because it's just us and no one will stop by!!! I love them all but enough!
I don't meet with the chemo doc till 9/8. I will ask my oncol if he wants me to see anyone else and be quicker but he is on vacation till Tuesday. I'll keep you posted.
In the meantime, rest up for vacation. I am sure your husband will just be happy to relax in Italy...IT's ITALY!! Do what you can and don't overdue it. I am sure you'll have a fabulous time. What's your itinerary like? That's one place I'd love to visit but I don't fly well.
Thanks for being there!! xoxo Lori
I TOTALLY get what you meant when you said just conversations with your 3 year old could be exhausting. This week did me in. Between my 2 and 1 year old girls I also had every day one mother in law, one 7 year old cousin to help, and a visitor almost every day. Yesterday, that included 2 20something parents of a 1 year old. I just couldn't take any more stimulation and went to bed at 7pm. It's crazy raining here in NJ due to the storms moving up the coast and I am glad because it's just us and no one will stop by!!! I love them all but enough!
I don't meet with the chemo doc till 9/8. I will ask my oncol if he wants me to see anyone else and be quicker but he is on vacation till Tuesday. I'll keep you posted.
In the meantime, rest up for vacation. I am sure your husband will just be happy to relax in Italy...IT's ITALY!! Do what you can and don't overdue it. I am sure you'll have a fabulous time. What's your itinerary like? That's one place I'd love to visit but I don't fly well.
Thanks for being there!! xoxo Lori
So....how did the staple removal go?
I bet it was not problem. Did you get any more info from your Dr about what to expect with everything coming up? When do you start chemo, etc?
You sure seem to have a good attitude about everything which i think is more important than anything else. You have to stay positive and focused and realize what things really matter. you know? Little papers on the bathroom floor do NOT count as important...and it sounds like both you and your husband get that. You should take a picture of the bathroom floor and keep it for your scrapbook. That would be funny.
I didn't have any discharge/bleeding of any sort. In fact, i'm almost 5 weeks out and haven't had a drop of blood (even with my stitches probably being dissolved by now). That's pretty nice - eh? But - I do have to go to my check up tomorrow and I'm really scared that it is going to hurt badly. I guess i will just have to envision my dr. singing some song to me while he is performing the exam (i don't know if i have already told you this - but he looks like sting...yeah for me!!!). and my husband and i are leaving for italy in 9 days and i'm worried that i'm going to ruin the trip b/c i'm not going to be as much fun as i could have been had i not just been through this. but my husband is a saint and a wonderful man and he has totally reassured me that we will have a wonderful time just being together and driving around the country and enjoying the scenery. oh dear.
okay - i must take my melatonin and hope for my 1st good night of sleep since mid july!!!
Laura
I bet it was not problem. Did you get any more info from your Dr about what to expect with everything coming up? When do you start chemo, etc?
You sure seem to have a good attitude about everything which i think is more important than anything else. You have to stay positive and focused and realize what things really matter. you know? Little papers on the bathroom floor do NOT count as important...and it sounds like both you and your husband get that. You should take a picture of the bathroom floor and keep it for your scrapbook. That would be funny.
I didn't have any discharge/bleeding of any sort. In fact, i'm almost 5 weeks out and haven't had a drop of blood (even with my stitches probably being dissolved by now). That's pretty nice - eh? But - I do have to go to my check up tomorrow and I'm really scared that it is going to hurt badly. I guess i will just have to envision my dr. singing some song to me while he is performing the exam (i don't know if i have already told you this - but he looks like sting...yeah for me!!!). and my husband and i are leaving for italy in 9 days and i'm worried that i'm going to ruin the trip b/c i'm not going to be as much fun as i could have been had i not just been through this. but my husband is a saint and a wonderful man and he has totally reassured me that we will have a wonderful time just being together and driving around the country and enjoying the scenery. oh dear.
okay - i must take my melatonin and hope for my 1st good night of sleep since mid july!!!
Laura
Thanks to all for easing my nervousness about the staples. I go today and actually can't wait...they are ugly!
Yes, I did read your posting (laura) and thanks so much. Your kind words and the words of others really have helped me in all of this. I too like to keep things light and a bit silly...it's how I deal. My mom was always so serious and it made her unapproachable...so i find this works better for me and everyone. Anyway, YES!! to the bladder description. I'll talk to doc today about it. I also can't wait for this discharge stuff to stop. I didn't get a hysterectomy to always have to wear a pad did I? Ugh. Then if the little paper falls on the floor I can't bend over to pick it up and my husband just laughs at the bathroom when he gets home. I am a mess! As for sleep I am still taking the Percaset so I think that helps me. I am just one of those people who "thinks" too much and being home bored all day doesn't let me get too much done. I am hoping it doesn't get as bad as your situation. I am going to talk to the doctor about all that menopausal stuff when I see him again so we'll see where this takes me. Crazy. I kind of wish I had lost my appetite but some things never change I guess. I am just focused on eating healthy so that I don't fall into bad habits and to take advantage of the big clean out I experienced. I feel energetic but keep reminding myself my insides are still healing. As for the hair...good idea! I will try to make it a fun thing for the girls. I don't think they are old enough to even remember anyway. I'll just take it one day at a time and see how it goes. But the learn your colors with it is awesome...Madaline will enjoy it!
Take care and I wish you lots of ZZZZzzzzzzz's!
xoxo Lori
Yes, I did read your posting (laura) and thanks so much. Your kind words and the words of others really have helped me in all of this. I too like to keep things light and a bit silly...it's how I deal. My mom was always so serious and it made her unapproachable...so i find this works better for me and everyone. Anyway, YES!! to the bladder description. I'll talk to doc today about it. I also can't wait for this discharge stuff to stop. I didn't get a hysterectomy to always have to wear a pad did I? Ugh. Then if the little paper falls on the floor I can't bend over to pick it up and my husband just laughs at the bathroom when he gets home. I am a mess! As for sleep I am still taking the Percaset so I think that helps me. I am just one of those people who "thinks" too much and being home bored all day doesn't let me get too much done. I am hoping it doesn't get as bad as your situation. I am going to talk to the doctor about all that menopausal stuff when I see him again so we'll see where this takes me. Crazy. I kind of wish I had lost my appetite but some things never change I guess. I am just focused on eating healthy so that I don't fall into bad habits and to take advantage of the big clean out I experienced. I feel energetic but keep reminding myself my insides are still healing. As for the hair...good idea! I will try to make it a fun thing for the girls. I don't think they are old enough to even remember anyway. I'll just take it one day at a time and see how it goes. But the learn your colors with it is awesome...Madaline will enjoy it!
Take care and I wish you lots of ZZZZzzzzzzz's!
xoxo Lori
Hey! Did you read my post to you on your string about your diagnosis? I hope so.
Okay - about my bladder infection: I didn't have the "normal symptoms" of pain during urination and constant feeling of needing to go. It was more of a strong tingling/spasm sensation when i was close to emptying my bladder. It would tingle really badly and i would have to stop and wait & just let out a little bit at a time. I put off going to the dr. b/c they weren't the symptoms i was used to - BUT it turned out I had one. So, i say - get it checked out. It can't hurt - right?
About the staples: Mine didn't hurt at all. I didn't know to take any medication before I went. It is really a simple procedure. My doctor was very gentle - and effective. Don't worry about it - its easy breasy cover girl. I, too, am very fair and have a lot of redness (but not too much pain) from eyebrow waxes - and the staple thing was no problem!
Don't rush out and try to hard too fast. I did that and it kind of set me back a little. I now am dealing with a big anemia issue and am lightheaded and dizzy and nautious all the time. I can't find my appetite for the life of me! But i need to get some good wholesome food down my throat so that I can recover - you know? I saw on one of your posts that you can't sleep at night - ME NEITHER! Its awful. my body is tired but my mind doesn't quit. I read somewhere that progesterone helps us sleep and after surgery (w/ your hormones all out of whack) that it can cause insomnia - but i don't know if that is for sure. My doc gave me a sleeping pill for the 1st two weeks and then he told me to just drink a glass of red wine every night (which i need for my health anyway). But i don't like red wine - so right now - I'm just not sleeping. Bodies are amazing - aren't they?
About your hair - i don't know what to tell you about that. My first thought was that you should make some sort of fun game out of it. My son's kindergarten teacher wore a different color wig on every friday (while they talked about colors). Maybe you could do something fun like that? One day wear a bright blue bob and the next day a big orange fro? Your girls might get a kick out of that and then not really worry about your hair. Its just a suggestion. I think you should do what you are most comfortable with - than they will be most comfortable - you know?
You sound like you sure have the right attitude!
I'm glad to have you back,
Laura
Okay - about my bladder infection: I didn't have the "normal symptoms" of pain during urination and constant feeling of needing to go. It was more of a strong tingling/spasm sensation when i was close to emptying my bladder. It would tingle really badly and i would have to stop and wait & just let out a little bit at a time. I put off going to the dr. b/c they weren't the symptoms i was used to - BUT it turned out I had one. So, i say - get it checked out. It can't hurt - right?
About the staples: Mine didn't hurt at all. I didn't know to take any medication before I went. It is really a simple procedure. My doctor was very gentle - and effective. Don't worry about it - its easy breasy cover girl. I, too, am very fair and have a lot of redness (but not too much pain) from eyebrow waxes - and the staple thing was no problem!
Don't rush out and try to hard too fast. I did that and it kind of set me back a little. I now am dealing with a big anemia issue and am lightheaded and dizzy and nautious all the time. I can't find my appetite for the life of me! But i need to get some good wholesome food down my throat so that I can recover - you know? I saw on one of your posts that you can't sleep at night - ME NEITHER! Its awful. my body is tired but my mind doesn't quit. I read somewhere that progesterone helps us sleep and after surgery (w/ your hormones all out of whack) that it can cause insomnia - but i don't know if that is for sure. My doc gave me a sleeping pill for the 1st two weeks and then he told me to just drink a glass of red wine every night (which i need for my health anyway). But i don't like red wine - so right now - I'm just not sleeping. Bodies are amazing - aren't they?
About your hair - i don't know what to tell you about that. My first thought was that you should make some sort of fun game out of it. My son's kindergarten teacher wore a different color wig on every friday (while they talked about colors). Maybe you could do something fun like that? One day wear a bright blue bob and the next day a big orange fro? Your girls might get a kick out of that and then not really worry about your hair. Its just a suggestion. I think you should do what you are most comfortable with - than they will be most comfortable - you know?
You sound like you sure have the right attitude!
I'm glad to have you back,
Laura
I don't know if they would be the same, but when my father had his staples out after bypass surgery he was pretty sore. I would recommend taking an ibuprofen prior to going.
most of my staples came out easily with just a little discomfort, a few of them were more difficult because they had become burried in the swollen wound these were more painful but they were out in a few minutes. youll find it easier to move around once their out.good luck
I know you posted for motherof2cuteones, but I wanted to give you the info on the staples if no one else got you the answer. The staples twinge when they take them out... kind of like if you took an individual hair on your arm or somewhere a little more sensitive and just pulled the hair. No real pain, just a little stinging 'tug'.
Hang in there!
~Marianne
Hang in there!
~Marianne
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