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simplystar - HOW DARE YOU
First off I find your post not only RUDE but Defintely HURTFUL! WHERE DO U COME OFF CALLING ME A SILLY ATTENTION SEEKING WOMAN! YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME...I HAVE AN ISSUE THAT I FELT IT WAS AN IMPORTANT ONE AND YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE ME! I AM NOT BRAGGING ABOUT NOT TAKING MEDS IT IS PART OF MY ISSUES THAT I AM DEALING WITH. I SEE POSTS ON HERE ABOUT MANY OTHER ISSUES BESIDES OVCA AND BELEIVE ME I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO POST MY CONCERNS AS WELL AS OTHERS AND I HAVE NEVER BEEN UNGRATEFUL OR RUDE TO ANYONE...I HAVE LOST SOMEONE TO CANCER SO DONT TELL ME THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT ANY OF THESE WOMAN ARE GOING THROUGH AND I FEEL FOR THESE WOMAN WHO HAVE MUCH MORE ISSUES IF YOU HAVE READ MY PAST POSTS I ALWAYS THANK ANYONE WITH THEIR CARE, CONCERN AND WORDS OF WISDOM GIVEN TO ME SO DON'T YOU DARE TELL ME WHERE I SHOULD POST WHEN I HAVE ISSUES LIKE EVERYONE ELSE! I ALSO NEED THIS SURGERY AND DON'T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT UPON WAKING UP SO DON'T YOU DARE JUDGE ME..
Sorry love dont agree with that. I don't have OVCA and I am going no-where!
Anna X
Anna X
I have to agree with you..there are many posts that are here that go off track of the ovca...everyone here is here to help others with problems along the way..i understand this is an ovca forum but along with illness comes many other issues...
I hear what you are saying....the ignorance and nastiness that simply star has said was uncalled for...there is a way to come across and state a point without being mean and arrogant!! I am not the only one on her talking about anxiety, or other issues if you browse through the posts there are many different situations and topics being brought up and discussed. I was here to get some help and to lend an ear when someone needed it by no way was I looking for any kind of "attention". I thank you for your prayers. I defintely appreciate all of you that have made this a little easier for me. Thanks.
It is the people like you all that have made me post again today. I appreciate your understanding,words of wisom and of course your stories of inspiration. I know that I need to help myself! It is getting to that place that is so complex. I have made a vow to try and work on the positive and not so much the negative. My children of course are my first priority but when PARALYZED FEAR stands in your way...it is not a pretty picture. My choice would be to not have this problem but I do and I have to come to terms with it. I need to face the fear head on and if need a little help with meds ti get me there so be it. For the most part I have received nothing but sincere and honest advise on this website..when I stumbled across it..I felt it was a blessing in disguise but to be told I am an "attention seeking woman" is absurd and rude! I am overhwhelmed with this and it needs to be addressed head on which I am working on....I do not take this lightly...there are people much worse off then me and I know that..do you think by any means someone would chose to have anxiety or mental health issues...believe it or not its like having a physical disease..mental health is serious...anyway, I can feel for you anna-maria about your fear of the dentist...I know people that are afraid of alot of things..planes, heights, etc....unfortunately for their well being those things aren't a medical necessity..my situation is. Unfortunatley, I have cancelled my surgery for this week....Fear did stand in my way...but I am also battling a bad toothache that needs attention so they did not want to pull the tooth before the surgery so I am having the tooth pulled first. FEAR of course was the primary source...I appreciate all the feedback and I am lucky to have met some of you. Thanks for everything..I will keep you posted.GMA
We all have different "issues" going on in our lives, that's why we are here!
I think it's important to remember to support one another through tough times, offer kind words of advice, and encourage one another to press on and do the right thing. We are women, we are stressed, beaten down physically, and yes we are emotional...being a women I can say that. :)
I am sure people often say things they shouldn't or maybe word it in a way they shouldn't have...it happens...this is life. As I often say to my 12 yo son, "It's not WHAT you said to your sister, it's HOW you said it." (Need to teach that boy while he is young how to treat women :) )
I feel for you GMA, anxiety issues suck! But Star is also right, it may be a good idea to check out some anxiety message boards and get additional advice, supoort there from others who are dealing with it.
We are here to help, and support, keep the big perspective of what really matters. If we can share our stories, and make a difference in someone else's life, we are all better off for it.
Praying for all,
Sandy
I think it's important to remember to support one another through tough times, offer kind words of advice, and encourage one another to press on and do the right thing. We are women, we are stressed, beaten down physically, and yes we are emotional...being a women I can say that. :)
I am sure people often say things they shouldn't or maybe word it in a way they shouldn't have...it happens...this is life. As I often say to my 12 yo son, "It's not WHAT you said to your sister, it's HOW you said it." (Need to teach that boy while he is young how to treat women :) )
I feel for you GMA, anxiety issues suck! But Star is also right, it may be a good idea to check out some anxiety message boards and get additional advice, supoort there from others who are dealing with it.
We are here to help, and support, keep the big perspective of what really matters. If we can share our stories, and make a difference in someone else's life, we are all better off for it.
Praying for all,
Sandy
You know what I hate dentists. I hate dentists so much that I am consumed with terror just making the appointment. I have a filling that keeps falling out and causes me so much pain yet the prospect of the dentist is worse than the pain caused by not going. I have made an appointment and cancelled it so many times that I dare not make another one for fear of being struck off. I do not for one moment think you are attention seeking to be frank.
No-one in my family understands me, they get irritated by my irrational fear. The trouble is it is only irrational to them because they do not understand the situation through MY eyes, from my point of view. People are frustrated by you because to them it seems crazy - "just have the damn surgery". Sometimes a great exercise in tollerance, ladies, is to try to see someone elses behaviour through THIER eyes not through your own. I have never been much of an advocate for the old saying "pull yourself together". My answer would be "do you think I want to feel this way". Yes yes I know I am the first one to step up to the plate and tell people to get a grip! However this, I really believe, is not a lady who is anything other than effing terrified. She knows she can not keep cancelling but do not underestimate the power of denial. You ask Ursula what size I am and then try to figure out how I didnt NOTICE a 20 cm tumor that took up most of my abdomin. Does that mean I dont love my son because I left it soooooooo long to go to the doctors? No it means I was so blind with terror it was easier to not face the outcome.
I get angry with some of the things I read on here lol you know I do. But I feel real compasion for this lady. gma dont stop posting I will read them and I will respond to them. I love you to bits Marty this is not a reflection on you as I think you are a lovely lady. In fact I bet you would have made a fantastic no nonsence matron - oh those sheets would have been perfection.
Anna X
No-one in my family understands me, they get irritated by my irrational fear. The trouble is it is only irrational to them because they do not understand the situation through MY eyes, from my point of view. People are frustrated by you because to them it seems crazy - "just have the damn surgery". Sometimes a great exercise in tollerance, ladies, is to try to see someone elses behaviour through THIER eyes not through your own. I have never been much of an advocate for the old saying "pull yourself together". My answer would be "do you think I want to feel this way". Yes yes I know I am the first one to step up to the plate and tell people to get a grip! However this, I really believe, is not a lady who is anything other than effing terrified. She knows she can not keep cancelling but do not underestimate the power of denial. You ask Ursula what size I am and then try to figure out how I didnt NOTICE a 20 cm tumor that took up most of my abdomin. Does that mean I dont love my son because I left it soooooooo long to go to the doctors? No it means I was so blind with terror it was easier to not face the outcome.
I get angry with some of the things I read on here lol you know I do. But I feel real compasion for this lady. gma dont stop posting I will read them and I will respond to them. I love you to bits Marty this is not a reflection on you as I think you are a lovely lady. In fact I bet you would have made a fantastic no nonsence matron - oh those sheets would have been perfection.
Anna X
hi . i just finished reading all the posts to catch up with whats going on. and i am sorry that sometimes, people can seem hurtful. i have come across a few of those on this site before. but truth is that they dont know what youre really going through at home. your problems are more serious to you at home and sometimes things cant be described so perfectly on the computer. so what i am trying to say is that no matter how much help or support you get here or opposite, no matter how much rude comments you get here, WERE ALL JUST HERE TO GUESS AND GIVE YOU NOTHING BUT OPINIONS AND SUPPORT. we are not in your shoes at the moment so we cant judge anything. some women might be going through some tough times and they may find other posts rediculous in their eyes. dont stress it, just remember that were all here for you. i have had many responds to my posts from star and i always appreciate and liked her answers. so it could just have been a misunderstanding or a tough day i call it. i know that this is a ovcs forum, but who cares what forum were in. were all her to talk and care. you have two children and waiting to go to surgery. just remember that your health and happiness is very important when it comes to being a mother. you need to be calm and relaxed for your children. i say switch and put on a different face about it , be courageous and go for it. its not worse than delivery . and i am sure you have people around you to help you rest and recover. you will be on pain meds afterwards(you better be) so you wont be in much pain. then you can put all this behind you and concentrate on your family. i hope all goes well for you, let us know what happens.
set up an appointment and get this s*** over with as soon as possible before it stresses you and everyone around you more. befoer that , take a bath alone and think and relax and know that the recovery time isnt that long and you will be just fine. were all here for you.
love,
vista
set up an appointment and get this s*** over with as soon as possible before it stresses you and everyone around you more. befoer that , take a bath alone and think and relax and know that the recovery time isnt that long and you will be just fine. were all here for you.
love,
vista
I dont post on here frequently but do read this forum every single day. My Mom had ovca 3c and is currently on bio agent for rising ca-125. I've read GMA posts and I empathize with your on your fear. Im also fearful of many things, but believe me its best to proceed with the surgery ASAp for your own good and your 2 little ones. Then you can put all this behind you and enjoy your life and kids.
As everyone knows this is an OVCA forum and I like it that way. I post on here to seek advise and opinions on questions I have on ovarian cancer and everything that goes with it, not other medical issues that have their own forums on this site. Many women on here, as well as family members, are dealing with ALOT and I know that very well. I've received many helpful answers and advise and am very greatful to everyone that belongs to this forum. I guess what Im trying to say is that this diseas is very serious and many of us on here need each other and this forum should stay strictly on ovca or those not yet dx that are seeking answers.
As everyone knows this is an OVCA forum and I like it that way. I post on here to seek advise and opinions on questions I have on ovarian cancer and everything that goes with it, not other medical issues that have their own forums on this site. Many women on here, as well as family members, are dealing with ALOT and I know that very well. I've received many helpful answers and advise and am very greatful to everyone that belongs to this forum. I guess what Im trying to say is that this diseas is very serious and many of us on here need each other and this forum should stay strictly on ovca or those not yet dx that are seeking answers.
first off my prayers are with you an your mom! I agree with what you said I also am suffereing from 2 masses not 100% sure what they are...came on this site for help which I have received from many...My anxiety issues are one thing and I was just asking for guidance...My cysts are most likely endo, but I still am unsure about what they will find out after they do an exploratory laproatomy so I am still nervous and anxious and was just trying to get feedback from others in my situation. I appreciate your kind words and wish you good health especially your mom. My mom was sick with colon cancer and unfortunatley didnt survive so to me cancer is cancer and we just have to keep praying for cures!!!
Stretch, I want to say that I appreciate your calm, supportive, and proactive attitude. I have been out of town, so I was catching up on the posts and your kindness to the posters is wonderful. Sounds like you are great at seeing all sides of the issue.
I will say that I saw your empathetic response to Star on the other post. Again, it sounds like you have a sixth sense! I am not trying to respond for Star, but I will say that I know her plate is about as full as anyone I know, and don't we all have something? And, for people in the medical field, it is hard to sit by and see people wait and question when the rational answer is right in front of them. And, as GMA said herself, she even sees the rational answer, but unfortunetly, the anxiety has taken over. But, again, I applaud you for the suggestion of the deep breath.
I also think that sometimes things happen for a reason. GMA, try to reframe this (sorry, can you tell I am in the field of Psychology?) and use it as a huge wake up call that will help you see that you have lots of strength! And that if you are fighting mad now, well, look at that and use it. Use that strength to channel your energy to get over this hurtle in your life.
I know we have posted back and forth a few times. I am glad you are seeing someone for the anxiety. As I said, I was reluctant at first to take any anxiety meds but when I looked around and saw my life falling apart all those years ago, well, I figured things could not get any worse, and that this was nothing to be ashamed of, that taking the meds was going to correct a chemical imbalance in my brain, and that I would be a better person for it. When I realized years later how I almost let my anxiety cripple me for a very long time, I am so grateful for the people who supported me in getting on with my treatment in the form of anxiety meds and talk therapy. I also discovered how much hormonal imbalance can play a huge part in anxiety....so, don't ever stop researching, but don't let it drive you crazy either.
And, here I am years later with no needs for the meds and a therapist whom I see about once a year. We joke about that, but the truth is, a therapist is doing a good job if they can work themselves out of a job. Now, I did not say how many YEARS it took to get myself to that point...but, once I started to make the decision to JUST DO IT...whatever it took, I started to feel so much better. In the course of that time, I had two gyn surgeries, one for (almost) cancer (cervical), and one for a diganosis of Ovarian cancer. I caught all of this early and moved FAST and am here today to share my news with all of you. So, I don't know if that will strike a chord for you, but, as Stretch said, take a breath....this is not the end of the world....we have hit bumps along the way on this site (two years for me now) and we always come out the better for it. So, I hope you stick around. We all need to just get together to be as proactive as possible. And, as I see Stretch doing....try to see the whole picture (okay, those are my words, I guess).
Hope in some way this helps....
Off to bed....Mary
I will say that I saw your empathetic response to Star on the other post. Again, it sounds like you have a sixth sense! I am not trying to respond for Star, but I will say that I know her plate is about as full as anyone I know, and don't we all have something? And, for people in the medical field, it is hard to sit by and see people wait and question when the rational answer is right in front of them. And, as GMA said herself, she even sees the rational answer, but unfortunetly, the anxiety has taken over. But, again, I applaud you for the suggestion of the deep breath.
I also think that sometimes things happen for a reason. GMA, try to reframe this (sorry, can you tell I am in the field of Psychology?) and use it as a huge wake up call that will help you see that you have lots of strength! And that if you are fighting mad now, well, look at that and use it. Use that strength to channel your energy to get over this hurtle in your life.
I know we have posted back and forth a few times. I am glad you are seeing someone for the anxiety. As I said, I was reluctant at first to take any anxiety meds but when I looked around and saw my life falling apart all those years ago, well, I figured things could not get any worse, and that this was nothing to be ashamed of, that taking the meds was going to correct a chemical imbalance in my brain, and that I would be a better person for it. When I realized years later how I almost let my anxiety cripple me for a very long time, I am so grateful for the people who supported me in getting on with my treatment in the form of anxiety meds and talk therapy. I also discovered how much hormonal imbalance can play a huge part in anxiety....so, don't ever stop researching, but don't let it drive you crazy either.
And, here I am years later with no needs for the meds and a therapist whom I see about once a year. We joke about that, but the truth is, a therapist is doing a good job if they can work themselves out of a job. Now, I did not say how many YEARS it took to get myself to that point...but, once I started to make the decision to JUST DO IT...whatever it took, I started to feel so much better. In the course of that time, I had two gyn surgeries, one for (almost) cancer (cervical), and one for a diganosis of Ovarian cancer. I caught all of this early and moved FAST and am here today to share my news with all of you. So, I don't know if that will strike a chord for you, but, as Stretch said, take a breath....this is not the end of the world....we have hit bumps along the way on this site (two years for me now) and we always come out the better for it. So, I hope you stick around. We all need to just get together to be as proactive as possible. And, as I see Stretch doing....try to see the whole picture (okay, those are my words, I guess).
Hope in some way this helps....
Off to bed....Mary
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