is a thearpist enough or do I need to go further

[wenwen52]

my stepfather mudered my mother in January 08 by shooting her "point blank" in the face with a 20 gage shot gun. The coroner told us that no one in our family could see her. My stepfather then supposedly tried to commit suicide and ended up only shooting part of his jaw and cheek off. Unfortunately he has survived and is now claiming he doesn't remember anything. He was drunk and taking valium (which no doctor had perscribed to him). the toxicology report showed an alchol lever of 276. he has been an alcoholic since the 60's. Our life was hell growing up. but we all had really thought things were better for the past 5-10 years, with an occasional "falling off the wagon". Upon hearing the news that my mother was dead we even gave him the benefit of dobut that it was truly an accident and he was only trying to scare my mother. (how could we ever have considered justifying this murder for him). My problem is that I am so enraged that he did not die. that he still breathes air while my mother is dead. and we could not see her to say goodbye. I can control my anger unless I see him ( I was banned from the hospital for screaming at him - I did not touch him, although I wanted to). I don't think I'll ever rest until he is dead. Jail is too good for him.

[sue14]

I'm so sorry for you, this must be so hard to deal with as it seems to be so unfair. The loss of your mother is made extremely difficult as he's still around as a reminder of what happened.  It would be useful to talk through your feelings with someone like a therapist as I've found that 'friends' don't seem to understand the distress of a traumatic event at all.  It's understandable to be angry - and sad and all the other emotions as well - you're greiving.  This must be an extremely sad time for you and my heart goes out to you.  Big hug

[fary]

why do u need to b concerned about someone who did harm to u.
u damn care.dont u.
u care for ur mom.pray for her and take care of wat she left behind i.e ur siblings

[margypops]

yup

[upsetwoman]

My condolences to your family.  I can't imagine what you are going through.  I will also pray for your family and hope you will eventually accept this horrific tragedy and try to live your life.  So hard.  Get involved with a Christian church that teaches the bible.  I've seen alot of people do well.  Make sure it is a good and honest organization.  Check out www.oneplace.com.  Some of the featured speakers talk on all topics to help and it doesn't cost anything.  James MacDonald, David jeremiah, Charles STanley.  Also go to Andrew Womack's website.  He's helpful.

[teko]

A therapist is definately called for and a support group with others that have similar experiences so you can vent, get it out in a safe environment. If the anger you are feeling is not given a safe route to escape, it will eat you up. How pitiful this man must be. Guilt feelings about giving him the benefit of the doubt just shows how you want to believe that he did not mean to do this to your mother. And maybe he didnt mean to, but nonetheless he did. Now the children are left with all the emotions of it all. I will say a prayer for you and if you ever need to talk, I am here. Gentle Hugs...

[RockRose]

wenwen,  have you looked for support groups in your area?  Many law enforcement agencies have victims services and could point you to a group of people who have experienced similar things and could help you through it.

There's a group called Children of Murdered Parents,  but really it deals with minor children and all the issues surrounding becoming an orphan.

If you post your general location,  I'll help you look for a support group.

Has your stepfather's trial occurred yet?  

Blessings for you.