HELP!!!

[Jen777]

My husband has chronic pain in his neck and doctors have said it was either TMJ or Dystonia and are trying different things to find relief. None the less my husband has a horrible attitude about being positive on finding a solution and everything the doctors say he is negatove about and half *** takes their direction. He keeps believing he needs to be on pain pills his whole life. Well, he takes massive amounts of vicodin and oxycodone a day. He has ran out and is in tremendous withdrawals and it taking it out on me and our child. He is running around the house verbally abusing me and last night he ran around the house cocking a shot gun telling me he was going to blow his brains out while our 14 month old daughter was right there. I can't take this anymore! Do pain management doctors not have any counseling or anything else besides just dishing out enormous amounts of pills to their patients? How I can get him in a different mindset to listen to the doctors and try to do what they say instead of just thinking he needs to be on pain pills his whole life? I don't know how much longer I can take this and I am about to kick him the hell out of the house or call the police to have him removed. Does anyone have any suugestions? I am deperate!

[Tuckamore]

Hello Jen,

There is a Substance Abuse Forum in MedHelp also. They have much more experience dealing with these issues than the PM Forum, though we are all here to help  in anyway that we can. And though it is not you that has a substance abuse issue, you are effected by it. I can't say if your husband has pain and need these medications but I can say that he has a problem and I'm sure you already knew that.I have been out of my pain meds and never picked up a weapon. If you do nothing that is said here you must get the guns out of the house, you must.

Everyone has said it well. You and your daughter must get out. It's very easy to sit behind this laptop and hand out advice. It's much harder to be in your shoes and heed that advice.

I would also discuss his behavior with his PMP or whom ever is prescribing his medications. Jaybay is correct, once he gets his "fix" he'll return to the man you love but that's doesn't mean it won't happen again. Has he abused you in the past? There are agencies out there that can help you if you have no where to go. Al-anon (not sure of the spelling) will be very helpful for you also.

Don't ever let the day (or night) come that you say you wish you would have listened to the ppl on MedHelp. Get your courage up and do what's right for you and more importantly the innocent in all this, your daughter. Good luck and please let us know how you are doing. Take care, Tuck

[sandee1818]

I also think it is time to get out so your daughter and you are safe.
Your husband really needs help, have you talked to his Dr about all this?

[Jaybay]

Sadly, your husband is very sick.  He is now a full-blown opiate addict.  YOU cannot change his behavior or his outlook on treatment.  All of that is up to him.  

What you do need to do now is protect yourself and your child.  That means either he must leave, or you must leave with your daughter.  If you can, get the guns out of the house as well.  Don't wait.  The time for action is past due.  You already know you can't stay in this very dangerous situation, and it isn't going to change any time soon.

You've got a very rough road ahead, and I hope and pray that you and your daughter don't pay with your lives. Once your husband gets his fix, he'll probably be right back to the person you knew - or close enough to it to fool you.  Every time he runs out of drugs something like this is going to happen.  Save yourself and your daughter!

[CleanUpTime]

I agree...Shotgun and the depression/anxiety of the WD's dont make for a great combination...I know it's tough, but get him to a detox clinic or call 911...be safe

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

Well - if you wait very long you will be calling the stupid police to come process his suicide - jeez.................you dont let someone run around cocking weapon and threatening end of life.................DO SOMETHING POSITIVE......YELL = CALL POLICE = LEAVE = BUT DO SOMETHING ------------------!!!  Have you ever seen anyone that has taken a shotgun hit at house range..I am guessing not here............get the kid out right now............and you go with them..........