Hi, I use the Honest Company Laundry Pods for my toddler's clothes/bedding and mine (both of us suffer from allergies). Just recently, I found a site called 'Gimme The Good Stuff ', I've used it for researching products for my children ~ it's a site for moms to check out non toxic items for babies and kids.
Another place you might want to post at is the Baby Products forum, here at medhelp.
I use Nellies detergent. I have very sensitive skin and it doesn't bother me at all.