My 12 year old seems to be going through puberty from all of the signs. He has a 16 year old girl that he feels that he loves. Her family is very close and religious, so she is not wild like some 16 year old girls. A few weeks ago, they had a disagreement and were running outside in about 40 degree weather. When they came inside, the temp was very warm and she had a type of bronchial/asthma attack and almost died. He feels that it's his fault and even if they say they don't blame him, he really feels that her family does. I get mixed vibes so I don't know what to say to him. There were mixed circumstances with her and I keep telling him it was not his fault at all. His father is Bipolar and has PTSD from being a Marine in the first Gulf War and having an abusive dad himself. My son turns to me with questions about what is normal and what to do, but I have a better view from the female perspective. What do I tell him?