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I caught my 13 year old daughter mastebating

I don’t know what to do I didn’t tell her I so her, But she was watching porn while masterbating, I just don’t know what to do, Beacause she also has a “ boyfriend” should I talk to her?
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At 13, if she is watching porn and has a boyfriend- she should be talked to for sure.  I don't mean a disciplinary talk- but it sounds like you have approached the sex topic with her at all.  It might be helpful to take her into the doctor and have them talk with you both in regards to what is going on.  Allow that to be a time to start to open communication with your daughter on this topic so that you are a safe place to go to for questions and information.  
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Thank you for the advice, It really helped
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In my opinion I think this is very normal to start experimenting at this age, what you need to do is block those kind of websites off the whole network so she won’t be able to reach them and say “oh we blocked sites that might hack your computer or phone” if she asks. Masterbating is very common at this age, leave it for now. For her boyfriend, if you are worried they might do something sexual, make sure you know where she is all the time. If she goes to a friends house, ask to speak to the parents to go over some thing.
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You should talk to her directly about the harm of porn. She is probably going to be sexually active with her boyfriend unless she is monitored very carefully. Trust, but verify! Monitor her electronics closely and let her know you will be doing so. As far as the masterbation goes, it is natural at that age and I would not be concerned about that act as long as it is not tied to electronics or boyfriends.
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I'd pull the plug on her ability to get porn at 13.  Parental controls were built for this.  No more iPhone, go to a flip phone, ipads and computers with parental controls, more monitoring, stricter rules.  And yes, talk about the reality of porn (addicted women who are often abused and the disrespect of that whole industry to women is a good place to start . . .).  A boyfriend.  Sigh.  So hard at that age.  I see it and hear of it.  Thank goodness my kiddos are not into that yet.  Monitor it and have rules I guess.  And masturbation IS normal but a private activity.  That I would not get involved in unless it is in view of others.  good luck, this is the really FUN part of parenting.  :-0
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Thank you for the advice
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Thanks you everyone for all of the responses, I told her if I catch her watching pornagrahy again I will take her phone away, I also told her master bating is normal but to not get addicted to it, As for her boyfriend I often check there text messages and they are not allowed to go to each other’s houses, She did not get disciplint but i told her to not watch porn
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That was a good decision.
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Leave her alone, as a 17 year old girl experimenting with that stuff is okay. As long as you don’t do it all the time. She should be aloud to have her boyfriend in her room with the door open. LET HER LIVE. That doesn’t mean she is aloud to have sex. But she will look back to that moment and think of how rude it was if her mother that walk in and not leave her alone about that. I know fro experience that it ruined our relationship. AND WHY ARE YOU POSTING ABOUT THIS?!?!?
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13 is just way too young to be watching any sort of explicit sexual content its not only unhealthy for kids of that age but I think she needs to go through counseling for this.
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