It is possible that by making an issue of it you have made him feel guilt that he doesnt have to feel. He doesnt see his daughter very much,you say he lays on the ,do you get on well with her. I do not see any harm in a father laying on his daughters bed as she is from another country,she could be home sick , maybe misses her mom and needs company.So you have 2 choices , let him do what he wants to do twice a year or get out of his life ...
He should not be sleeping the night in the bed with her, that would be highly inappropriate.
If you were not rude and gentle with your question to him, his hostile reaction seems suspicious to me, as if he is hiding something.
It does sound a bit suspicious, no offence.
You make it sound bad. Maybe she's just a daddy's girl and misses him.
Still sounds pretty suspect, regardless of why it's happening. She's twelve. Not five. She's probably got boobs or at least the start of them for goodness sakes. Not appropriate. I wouldn't even let my husband do it with our children. Notice I said husband. Nope, nope, nope. Weird. Just plain weird.
I find it wrong wrong wrong to suggest that every man is a pedophile. Saying that any father who sleeps in a bed with a 12 yr old daughter is suspect means that every man would harm their own daughter no matter what. That is absolutely ridiculous and simply mean and hateful.
However, if the daughter is having difficulty sleeping, the father might want to back off on this. You can explain that one things a child needs is the ability to soothe themselves and learn to fall asleep on their own. A bit of comfort is okay, but if the child cannot get to sleep on her own, the father is not helping. This way you acknowledge the father's love for the daughter and the even greater gift he can give her by teaching her to take care of herself. Sometimes it hurts to do this in the short term, but in the long run it helps the child..
For the people saying it's weird, is it also weird for a mum to sleep on a baes with her daughter? Also didn't the original post say he lays on the daughters bed till she falls asleep?