My 10 year old daughter n her mom share a bed

[raspution]

  My daughter is 10 years old and she still shares a bed with my x... her mom.  I am trying to find research on why this is bad for my daughter because of numerous other reasons I plan to take full custody.  Can anyone help with a good place to find research on it so i can present it to the courts in CA?

[KillingtonRob]

Yes it is a problem because both people can't have a good sleep at night and the child can't get their dependents.. if the child have her own bed. around dinner time  you need to talk to the her and say tonight you will be sleeping in your own bed.  she will say why and start to cry. you need to be saying in your own head it will be find.. the first night expect a box of tissues will be gong and she will say thing that you don't like.. but stand your ground.. expect the first week be hard and then after a few weeks it will be no problem anymore..  but when you decided to start this don't go back at all be strong..    

[kellylynn66]

I agree with all the others.  Co sleeping is a choice, I don't think it's a reason to take a child from her mother.  I think both parents are important.  My ex does a lot that I wouldn't do, but that's him and I picked him for the father of my son, so I accept it.  Sometimes my 8 year old son says, "Dad lets me" and I say, "Nice, I don't!, everyone is different and does things different ways."  I figure in the end he'll be better for it because he's learning about difference in people, and that there doesn't have to be a right or wrong all the time, sometimes it's just different.

What isn't good for kids is two parents who trash one another or fight all the time.  Your daughter is a part of her mother and when you say or do against her mom, you end up saying and doing against your daughter too.

[gangnamstyle]

Hi. My daughter used to do that from when she was a baby. She stopped doing that when she was about 10 1/2. Shes now 11 and sleeps in her own room all the time. If youre worried and want her to stop then try using a reward system. I gave my daughter 10p every night she slept in her room. She bought a goldfish with the money! Be patient too thats the first step to weening her off her mothers bed... Hope this helps!

[margypops]

I agree with the others ...many children sleep with parents it usually ends when the child reaches puberty and wants privacy and if it doesn't well most of Europe share a bed ., i doubt very much they are all molestors

[anacyde]

This doesn't sound like a problem; in fact, there are actually benefits with co-sleeping.  I hope your motives are not selfish.  Children need both of their parents, whenever possible.  

[RockRose]

Google it.

Is there a reason you want custody other than that one thing?  In itself,  it doesn't sound harmful to me.  If that's the biggest thing you have to take to the California courts as evidence you should have full custody,  I think you should rethink that.  A girl needs a mother,  if the mother's a good one and the worst thing she does is share a bed with the daughter.

At least there's not a guy in her bed,  which is much more typical,  and troubling.