My son is 5 years old and has no idea that my husband is not his biological father. My husband has been in his life since he was 2, so he'll eventually be able to see that I'm the only one in his baby pictures.
His bio father has been in and out of prison since my son was born. He's never attempted to meet his "son" and he has four other children whom he is estranged from as well.
A part of me wants my son to never meet him. He would not be a good influence. As it stands, he's in prison until 2015. I don't want my son to seek out his no-good father. My husband is his daddy. It was his choice to call him daddy and at this point, he doesn't ever remember not having him around.
I struggle with the question of when to tell my son that he has a bio father who is not his daddy. I know I have to tell him, I just don't know what a good age would be. He wouldn't understand it at this point.
I hurt for my son because it pains me that his bio father would rather commit crimes than reach out to his children. I don't want my son to feel rejected.
Also, my son is mixed. My husband and I are not, so there really is no secret that he isn't both biologically ours. There won't be any hiding the fact that he has another parent out there and I want him to hear it from me rather than some perseptive observer.