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Need Help with my 6 yr old!!!!

I'm not sure where to start. My 6yr old boy has behavioral issues. He acts out mostly at school and with me. When I ask him why he acts out at school his reply is "I just don't want to be there, I'd rather be home, playing"  We have had multiple conversations about why school is important. He recently went to a doctor who put him on Adderall. 10 mg once a day, which seems to help concentration. He also has "ticks". One of them is moving his fingers a lot when he is concentrating, another is he moves his nose and opens  his mouth repeatedly. We brought his to a specialist who said as long as it isn't effecting his life to just let it go..could be anxiety. She also said he has sensory issues, doesn't like the way a pencil feels in his hand or shirts on his neck. This stuff we can deal with but this morning he had his sneakers on and stepped on the hard wood floor and said "in my head it sounds like I hate you" when I asked him what he meant he said the voice in his head said I hate you???? He had a great morning, no signs of irritation and that this was a random thought. It scared me! He listens to his father and never acts out around him but with me, he is very mean. So this morning when he said that out of the blue it was very sad. I'm lost and I don't know what step to take next..he is seeing a child clinical psychologist already. Anyone please help!!!!
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1791150 tn?1330132972
Hi there!

Did your doctor diagnose him with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity disorder??? If the meds aren't working your doctor may prescribe ritalin?

These are the symptoms notice the inappropriate comments line!!!
(I wouldn't take it too personally)

Predominantly inattentive type symptoms may include:
Be easily distracted, miss details, forget things, and frequently switch from one activity to another
Have difficulty maintaining focus on one task
Become bored with a task after only a few minutes, unless doing something enjoyable
Have difficulty focusing attention on organizing and completing a task or learning something new or trouble completing or turning in homework assignments, often losing things (e.g., pencils, toys, assignments) needed to complete tasks or activities
Not seem to listen when spoken to
Daydream, become easily confused, and move slowly
Have difficulty processing information as quickly and accurately as others
Struggle to follow instructions.
Predominantly hyperactive-impulsive type symptoms may include:
Fidget and squirm in their seats
Talk nonstop
Dash around, touching or playing with anything and everything in sight
Have trouble sitting still during dinner, school, and story time
Be constantly in motion
Have difficulty doing quiet tasks or activities.

and also these manifestations primarily of impulsivity:

Be very impatient
Blurt out inappropriate comments, show their emotions without restraint, and act without regard for consequences
Have difficulty waiting for things they want or waiting their turns in games
1791150 tn?1330132972
A lot of children with ADHD also have tics and that seems to fit with your child .
There have been reports of the drugs to treat it causing stunted growth and psyciatric problems though so be very careful.

Children with ADHD also tend to have sensitive nervous systems, so they experience the world with a heightened intensity. As a result, they’re prone to anxiety, inattention, restlessness, and sleep problems. Ironically, these children will often seek out sensory-stimulating activities (such as action movies or sugar-laden foods), creating a vicious cycle that agitates their already overactive nervous systems.

I found this you may already have been told these natual remedies but they sound like they are worth a shot if the drugs don't seem to be working

1. Create a Routine
Children with ADHD are drawn to new activities, adventure, and change. Yet they’re balanced by the opposite: activities that are calming, relaxing, and nurturing. Your son needs regularity and structure to counter his natural tendency toward chaos: a regular time to do his homework, exercise, relax, eat, go to bed, and wake up to begin a new day. Here’s some advice about how to create a vata-calming environment for him at home.

2. Relaxation
Do a 5- to 10-minute relaxation with your son at least once a day. Lie down on the floor or in bed in shavasana (corpse pose), supporting your heads with a pillow and covering up with a blanket to stay warm. Then ask your child to feel his body from head to toe. Turn the practice into a game; together, pretend you are a scoop of ice cream melting in the sun, or that you’re sinking into a huge feather pillow. Imagine your breath is like the waves of the ocean–or ask your child to instruct you. The idea is to get your child to relax and deepen his breath, which helps his CNS switch from a sympathetic mode, which is a “fight-or-flight” state, to a parasympathetic mode, which is a nourishing and restorative state. Try this when your child comes home from school, or before supper or bedtime; these are times when our kids can be most overstimulated.

3. Bedtime Massage
Oil is the quintessential vata balancer, so a bedtime massage is particularly calming for children with ADHD. To begin, wet your hands and pour a teaspoon of organic unrefined oil in your palm. (Olive, almond, and sesame oils are especially grounding.) Then rub your hands together and massage the mixture into your child’s skin. Let the oil soak in for a few minutes, then towel off any remaining residue. Try to do this at least once a week. If you don’t have time to give your child a head-to-toe treatment, just massage his feet (covering them with socks to protect the sheets). If your child has trouble falling asleep, this bedtime activity will help.

4. Diet and Nutrition
Despite multiple studies in the last 20 years suggesting that diet and food additives can exacerbate hyperactivity, the current medical stance is that there is no causal link between food and ADHD. In my own practice, parents who have reduced their child’s intake of sugar, refined foods, and foods with chemical additives (food dyes, preservatives, MSG, etc.) report significant improvement in their child’s behavior over four to eight weeks. These children are also less disruptive and more focused when they eat plenty of cooked vegetables and whole grains, along with moderate amounts of protein and organic unrefined oils.

In addition, give your son 50 mg of B-complex vitamins and 100 to 200 mg of fish oils geared for children. These supplements nourish and stabilize the CNS while improving mood stability, mental focus, and brain function.

1791150 tn?1330132972

5. Natural Rx
Herbs that calm, soothe, and nourish the nervous system include lemon balm, chamomile, hops, passion flower, skullcap, brahmi, valerian, and St. John’s Wort. They can be taken safely as teas or tinctures–just follow the instructions on the bottle or box. (Dosing for children is one-fourth to one-half the adult dose based on their weight.)

6. Technology Time-Out
Most of our kids are perpetually plugged in–texting on their cell phones, playing computer games, watching TV for hours on end. This constant electronic stimulation not only fragments their attention but also exposes them to electromagnetic radiation (EMR) at potentially harmful levels. When a child is sensitive, this exposure agitates his nervous system. Sleep disturbances, chronic fatigue, headaches, dizziness, memory and attention problems, and distorted vision are all possible side effects of EMR. Try to limit how much electromagnetic exposure your child is getting by reducing his screen time to an hour or less a day.

7. Minimal Medication
If you decide to give your child medication, find a doctor who is willing to work with you to find the minimal dose that is effective. Ask your doctor to allow your child to take “holidays” from the medication when intense concentration and focus aren’t necessary (on the weekends, during summer break, etc.). By carefully monitoring your child’s behavior, you can help your doctor find the dosage and schedule that allow him to succeed in school, while decreasing his chances of experiencing side effects.

8. Last, But Not Least…
Remember, the purpose of these alternative treatments is to make your child feel loved, grounded, and nourished. Tell him that his new routine is an experiment to improve his mental focus–and let him play a role in how the changes are implemented. That means that you might compromise on a few things, but it also means more cooperation. Find alternatives that he will enjoy (for example, substituting a wholesome natural treat for a sugary one, or playing with a remote-control car rather than a video game), so that you don’t make his life miserable in your attempt to quell his ADHD symptoms. Together, you’ll find creative ways to gradually move in a positive direction. Your child will be happier–and so will you.

You really have your work cut out and I don't envy you.
Please post how you get on
good luck xx

1791150 tn?1330132972
Hi there meant to say when he is displaying a lot of tics that is a good indication that he is very stressed out . It may help to know that.

I am sure there are ADHD support groups you can join and speak to others in the same situation as yourself.
535822 tn?1443980380
It sounds as if the adderall is at the root of the behavior take him back to the doctor and better still put Adderall into the search engine along with side effects ...
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Margypops may be on to something.  If ADHD/ADD is the problem, then Adderall would be a suitable medication.  If anxiety is the problem, then Adderall would NOT be a suitable medication (an SSRI would be a more appropriate medication, if needed).  By the way, the behaviours you described are also the same as anxiety disorders.  You might wish to google "anxiety in children" or "behaviors of anxiety in children" or "anxiety disorders in children" or similar words/phrases.  So, what I feel you really need is a correct diagnosis.  Maybe it is time to seek out a second opinion.  Just wondering ....
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