Should I be worried? My son7 tells his sister3 to open her mouth...

[Chelsmom07]

I have stopped letting my son (7) take showers with his sister (3) because I understand he’s getting older. But recently I let them play in the shower together. Brought them some toys and I would go check on them every now and then. One time, I walked in very quietly because I heard him saying “open your mouth... say aahhhh.” I assumed he was putting soap in her mouth. When I opened the door to the shower he was holding his penis, not a soap bottle. We spoke to him about how his body is changing and he’s growing and what he was doing is WRONG and should never be done again. He understand and was very hurt by his actions. But what more should I do?

[from_theoutisde]

mate, thats not normal, stop taking showers together

[72747481]

He is young so it s not such a big problem same thing happend to my son he was 11 years and his cusin (a girl) was 8 we were on holidays on island called hvar and they were staying a lot of times in there bedroom one s i wanted to go to the market and went inside the bedroom and i saw my son on the bed with nekad cusin under the bed giving him oral sex i completle lost it they were doing it for days i explaind that was wrong now is evrything ok he is 22 so i think its normal for kids trying this but i would still watch out

[purple1234567]

First, it is a good idea to separate them for bath time (or getting dressed, etc).  Second, while this is obviously not ok- and it will be hard not to freak out about it- try to remain calm.  Use this as an opportunity to being talking to your kids about their bodies, the purpose of their body parts, and why we keep them to ourselves.  There may be more to why he did this, but it could also be simple curiosity.  

To start, you will want to open the doors of communication- there are many resources out there that can help you approach conversations about body parts out there- one of my favorites is called "God Made All of Me: A Book to Help Children Protect Their Bodies- it is from a "Christian" perspective, so that may not be a good fit for your family, however, it has some really good information in it.  You read it with your kids- it's a great tool.  There are many other options out there, so if that's not a good fit, you can check out several others on Amazon or at your library.  After you get the conversation going (not just about body changes, but a bigger conversation about what is appropriate and not)- you likely will be able to get a little more information on where the idea came from.  Never be accusatory when you talk to him about this, this page has some good tips for how to start the conversation- https://www.rainn.org/articles/if-you-suspect-child-being-harmed

You will want to have similar discussions with your daughter, even at three (which you can start by using the same book- at her age she will catch different things, but start this conversation now).  

Don't be afraid to reach out to your pediatrician for guidance as well, especially if you feel there is more going on than just what you saw.  

[Betatwinkle]

I see this post is old. This response is for the OP and anyone else who comea across a aituation like this with their children:

While children being silly and doing strange things is totally normal, this is quite the opposite, and I dont mean that in a "this child is terrible" kind of way. I mean that he must have gotten this behavior from SOMEWHERE. Even if hes growing, it is not normal for any child to "play" by performing or asking for sexual acts. However, it is VERY, extremely, happens-more- often-than-not, kind of common for young children who are being sexually abused.  Whether he found a movie of his fathers while visiting (if u r separated) or at a babysitters home, maybe possibly even a grand parents house. Or maybe rented a "movie" on demand (one of my sons did that once at age 3). Maybe he saw something online... Or, it is very possible that its the absolute worst case scenario; someone showed him this behavior and he is re enacting his abuse on his sister. This behavior is TEXTBOOK in childhood sexual abuse cases.

I'm sorry but If you took the persons advice that answered previously and never got to the bottom of it, please listen to me: THIS IS NOT NORMAL. The books he refereed you to should speak volumes. Im sorry but theres a reason why books like that exist within the Christian faith, and 99.9% of the time those books are dead wrong about whats going on.  

You should be VERY concerned. Talk to your son about where he learned this from. He may be embarrassed, thats ok. If he is being abused he may have been brainwashed into believing HE will get into trouble for telling. Be gentle. Be understanding. Do not freak out. And if u dont get answers right away, keep at it until you eventually get one. A child therapist may be a good idea if he doesn't tell u right away or if he srill hasn't or if you just tried to forget about it. Keep an extremely close eye on who hes interacting with, he may be being abused by someone you would never think it possible- thats typically how abusers prefer it. Most do not "look" like child molesters. If you go to church, do not allow him to be alone WITH ANYONE. This type of behavior is typical in young children who have been subjected to sexual assault so it is absolutely NEVER something to say "oh, kids are kids" about. Most importantly tho, he is not "bad" nor did he likely even know what he was doing. He was repeating something he has seen. It os not his fault but it IS something that u nees to get to the bottom of.

I hope like hell it was just a nasty movie he came across and for anyone who comes across this post, know that what this woman deacribed is a tell tale sign of some form of sexual exposure and/or abuse, each and EVERY time!