a lying 9 yr old daughter

[rzenk]

Our 9 year old daughter keeps lying about eveything! We have taken toys, computer time,  playing outside, bike, ans other things. We have read where giving more chores helps, yyeah not with her she likes to clean. She is the youngest of 4 and we have a 5 month old as well. We do mother daughter days and her dad and her have father daughter days so she didnt feel pushed away when our baby came along. What do we do? We are lost! Some days 8and cry so much cause this is getting out of hand! Please any advice will help. Im willing to try anything.

[margypops]

she may have some jealous feelings about the 5 month old ,I doubt giving her more chores will work it may make it worse .I would say focus on her positive side and praise her when you see her doing something right..She needs more attention

[rzenk]

The children are 16, 13, her 9 and then 5 months old. As a family everyone gets along great. I have her set to see a Cousler next week I pray that we get a break through cause Im goong to lose my mind if something dont happened soon

[margypops]

How old are her siblings are they kind to her ?

[margypops]

I think chores are often lied about ..I know that mine all said they had donne them when I could see they hadnt ...forging your name may seem more serious and may I ask why she would do that ?

[rzenk]

She forges my name last school year on a few. notes. She lyes about chores getting done. Its gotten where my husband and I are dont know how to handle this anymore.

[margypops]

May I ask what she is lying about, can you give a scenario?

[rzenk]

Yes ur right, but she gets attention all the time from both my husband and I. I dont understand her. She never did this even before her brother came. I even home school her and the children dont even know that we are expecting yet.

[RockRose]

I'm trying to figure out your family.

You have 4 older children,  and this 9 year old is the youngest of that set.  

Now,  you have a 5 month old infant and a baby on the way that you just found out about yesterday,  being newly pregnant with a 5 month old infant you're taking care of.  Is that right?

It's not a big surprise that your 9 year old is lying about everything and is unresponsive to punishment for that,  and unresponsive to being given more chores to curb her neediness.