custody/seperation

[positiveexposure22]

you cant doing right from doing wrong ,, if i agree with my ex or if i dont ,, he , totally go the oppisite way ,, he only turns up when he feels like it yet im supposed to keep his weeks free ,, cant believ a word he says  ,, i think a dad has a place in a child life ,, can any one give me advice on types of custody etc/

[positiveexposure22]

when i was seperated  ,, my baby was 4 weeks 2and a half and 4,, thanks

[rambo84]

my kids where to young to understand they where 2 and 3 but they ask questions now and i try to be as honest with them as possible

[positiveexposure22]

i made a mistake in my third message above i ment to say he has never remarried,,what did you tell your children when its was going through the courts ,,

[rambo84]

my ex played lot of games to the point i told him to go threw the court for access to the children that way it is sorted properly,plus if he really wants to see them  then he will go threw the process, it depends on what is you want,money wise you can go to the csa they will chase him for money on your behalf,, it is a shame he cant make the effort to walk those extra couple of houses to see the kids after such a long drive, best advice is to seek legal advice on this matter,,

[positiveexposure22]

iv asked him to go to meditation ,, he says no ,, ,, iv even tried been nice for the chhildrens sake as thiers life after devorse ,, and stress those cause sickness ,, only to be told im easy  ,, id never have him back ,,iv even said if he those,nt want to see the kids fine any thing but the mind games he plays as its heartbreaking for the kids ,, i dont get any money either from him  ,, he,s allways been welcom allthough thats easy he dont come that often ,, but often comes to a house down the road  ,, after driving 20 miles  ,, i often tell him thiers a barrior on the road ,,

[rambo84]

i know laws differ from country to country im in the uk and my ex to oldest 2 lied and decieved i told him he couldn;t see them because of the type of things he was doing, so he took me to court,, first we had to go to mediation when that didnt work it was down to the court which ruled he was unfit to be a father,, there are different types of acess here supervised generally done under supervision but they dont tend to do this long term agreed times and days and,, residency which is the child living with them or you or split between you both,, the courts cant make them see the children but can write an agreement between you both that if he breaks he could lose the right to see the child there is also indirect access which is where they write and send birthday and xmas cards but dont see them,,

[positiveexposure22]

he has remarried ,, but living with his third partener ,, he just goes from one to another living with them ,, with out living alone all have children ,, his latest partener has a two year old son,, which is my husband but he , s calls him dad ,, my ex is literly a compulisive liar , also and a charmer at heart  ,, latest one is he said our nine year old has told him i was pregnant which he did,nt ,, and my ex just as he says to get folks talking has said it around town and that i have my first scan over ,, it really hurts also as iv had a misscarraige ,, in 02 ,, with him  ,, also he made out his last partener was pregnant ,,

[margypops]

Get some legal advice about the situation if you can , dont try battling it alone , you need some help I would think if he doesnt keep to the rules set down you may be able to change them.A Dad does have a place in a childs life , but hes got to want to be there , has he remarried ?

[positiveexposure22]

cant sleep to night ,, this whole situation has me sleepless ,, and sick to the stumock