I am in a difficult situation. I have been with my fiance for 10 years. He has a 14 year old son who he has full custody of since his wife left when he was 4 years old. We have always had a great relationship. I also have a daughter who is 10 years old and they get along really well. However, it is my fiance's parents that have been causing problems pretty much from even before she was gone. My fiance was devastated when she left and they lived with his parents, so they helped take care of his son while he got himself together which was really about 3 months, but he was there the whole time. The issue is this: my future step son has literally gotten everything he wants all the time. He has every game system, over 250 games between computer and otherwise, toys, airsoft guns and a BB gun which I am against because he is not responsible enough. Literally everything, No matter what his dad says, they get it or do it. He is home bound from school due to a few health issues the doctors are trying to figure out but they refuse to set any rules, chores, or even a bedtime. They let him stay up until 4 or 5am or sometimes 24 hours then complain when he sleeps for 15 hours. They even do his homework for him when he is quite capable of doing it, he is smart. He throws temper tantrums like a 5 year old until he gets his way and they do it. There is no discipline of any kind at all and if my finace says something, he gets yelled at for making his son cry. I can't even say anything because they give me the whole he's not yours, you have no right etc. My fiance is at a loss because they do not listen to him either. I need advice on what to say or do because I am sick with frustration at this point. If anyone knows how to get him on a sleep schedule and how to deal with the grandparents, please let me know!!