I am feeling left out in cold when it comes to my 15yo daughter.
In fact, my Brother-in-law seems to get all the love and attention from her.
Our situation is this; the Brother-in-law is living with us and has been for about 3 months now while he looks for work.
Since he has been with us, my daughter and the brother-in-law have had many quiet one on one conversations. They are getting on like a house on fire, nothing wrong with that.
My problem is, prior to him moving, if she was pushing the behaviour boundaries I would naturally try put a stop to the behaviour (be a parent). Naturally, because I put a stop to the behaviour, I was not in her good books for a while but when things are forgotten about I would get all those good things that make parenting worth the bad stuff, like cuddles and time.
However, now she has a so-called big brother to turn to when I'm being the bad cop, I believe the brother in law, and her are talking, which he is taking her side and comforting her morally, he's is even getting cuddles. In return, I am feeling a hatred from her, I don't cuddles anymore and we haven't spoken or spent time for a few months.
I am feeling very jealous of the bond they share, I want him gone so things can get back to normal but this could be months before he gets back on his feet and moves out.
I really don't know how win her back, especially when I'm need to be the bad cop every now and then.