Hello, my wife called me to express a deep concern and we are trying to see the best way to handle this. My wife was notified by her ex-husband that their 16 year old son was caught trying to look at his Step Mother while she slept. My stepson snuck into the room and was caught lifting the bedsheet to see his stepmother naked while she slept. She caught him and so did his Father. Unfortunately, his father tends to just flip out and not really say anything. I advised my wife the importance of addressing this now. I told her at 16 years old he knows right from wrong. We shouldn't shut down the fact that it is although unlikely to happen, still normal. I also advised her from my observations, he is always locked in the room and rarely comes out. I asked her once if she had checked a laptop he borrowed from a friend and she said no. My wife didn't want to invade his privacy. I told her, it is necessary to know where he is currently at in life if he refuses to communicate with her. Also, I told my wife she should tell her ex-husband, to tell his wife (The boys stepmom), she needs to address it also and not just push him off. Otherwise, it will be ackward pretty much forever. At the biological dads house, he is blocked from youtube and adult sites on his cell phone and computer. However, the biological Dad has just freaked out previously when he found out he was looking at porn, instead of addressing how it is normal and what are limits. I will be speaking with him, because although I am the Step Dad, because I chose my words and can talk instead of yelling and I have made him feel like he matters versus seeing him as a black sheep for being the quite child that is into gaming and anime... They agree I should. Is it right to say that I am on the right track about telling him his interest is normal, but that maybe some porn (due to his lack of fully understanding the sex world), may have guided him without him knowing down the wrong path. What I mean is how some porns are stories like The hot milf or step mom that the stepchild has sex with. We also can't ignore the fact they are not related and maybe he thinks it is normal? Advise please? Should he be put into counseling? Or simply taught what the consequences can be of a disrespect like this to his Step Mom, Women and or anyone in the world? Also, should he be bought a porn magazine since it is normal at his age and be taught what he can and cannot do? This way maybe if he is allowed to ocassionally masturbate he may have a release outlet to decrease his desire for sex? - Thank you from a Concerned Step Dad that knows the step child is smart and a great kid and may have just made that 1 mistake that sometimes teaches you going forward to not mess around with these things since they have serious consequences. P.S. They have friends that are cops, should they go to the extreme of having one come out and talk to him? Or will that be traumatizing? I don't want him to end up a troublesome young man.