Oh, I'm sorry. I'm RIGHT there with you. My child also has depression and it is so hard. He's 16 and it breaks my heart to see him like this. It's been since lock down for us and he's not bounced back. He's had maybe one to two days since March where he was his normal self. They say a mother is only as happy as her most unhappy child. Some days I do good and others I get so upset about his being upset that my fear for him makes me say and do things I wish I didn't. You know? And it's hard to not take it personally, some of the things he says. Anger flashes with him sometimes and I'm an easy target. Cause I"m not going anywhere. Sigh. Anyway, tell me more. I'd love to chat.
I answered u twice and the sore keeps Tell me there is a problem and deleting everything I wrote! Ill try again tomorrow.
Hi sunflower. We're having a bad weekend. My son says nothing happened but he is depressed sad and has been mostly laying on his bed in his pajamas staring at the wall. Says he doesn't think it will EVER get better. This is just hard.
I'm glad your son is taking medication even though it is a struggle. I've not convinced my son go to the next level yet. He will take melatonin and it worked well. But when I tell my son that he needs to speak to a psychiatrist, he says "won't help". Just so hard. Did your son have side effects on Zoloft? I'm wondering what that will be like if my son does start meds. He needs SOMETHING.
I understand what you are saying about baseball. It was HIS activity. His thing. And it felt 'normal' when he did it. And if he was good at it? Then it's great for a parent. My son is actually a pretty fast runner. He can do a 5 K at just under 17 minutes. BUT, that's not his potential. He's never lived up to his potential. According to his coaches, anyway. He vomits when he runs. Likely a lot of that is anxiety driven. He has the conference championship next weekend. Last year, this is the race where he rounded to the finish and promptly had a huge vomit all over. Everyone saw, everyone made comments, someone took a picture. He was mortified. His time wasn't great. The next rate he was a bit more like 'screw it' and ran well. Why? Cause no one was expecting him to do great after the race before. something about that performance anxiety thing. Anyway, he also runs track. So, he takes 2 to 3 weeks off and then begins 'winter training'. They run all winter, outside six days a week. Yep, that much. And we are talking the same heavy mileage. So, he does get his exercise. That's a grueling sport.
Sorry, I rambled on about him but since you asked . . . ha.
But it's just such a bad weekend and he doesn't say this is triggered by anything, it just "IS". So, I'm just at a loss for what to do.
I hope you come back to chat. Things are tough with my son. Gosh, so tough. He is refusing help. I"m grasping at straws and very concerned. Any change with your child? My husband is not much help. He doesn't quite understand and the delicate touch this takes to deal with is outside of his skill set. He's loving and supportive in some ways but then just is a bull in a china shop in others.
I really need to take action with my son but it's so hard when they don't want to. We've tried the two counselors that did not click. We need the nest step. :-((