My girlfriends 4 year old.

[jam34983]

My girlfriend talked to me the other day, saying she wasn't happy with the fact that I don't spend time with her daughter. I was confused for a minute I really didn't know what she was talking about because, I run and pick up her daughter from school and drop her off at daycare on my 30m brakes every day. When I get off I pick her up take her home I do her homework with her take a shower feed her I'll make dinner for her and her mom so I didn't get what she was saying. She said yes you help a lot but that's helpful you don't spend time like go to the park with her read her a book go out then have a lunch with her etc. Then I got it my girlfriend and her dad was doing such a good job with that I didn't think I had to do that so I'm doing though stuff now but. But my girlfriend don't like the fact that her four-year-old sees nothing but her when she's around , when my gf isn't around my girlfriend daughter will act a little like she aqua her mom might come to me and talk to me show me stuff etc. Asked me to help her with stuff but, when my girlfriend comes home it's like I don't exist she never really interact with me etc. etc. and my girlfriend thinks it's because I didn't spend time in the way I explained in the beginning of this question with her I disagree I think it's jealousy because my girlfriend and I been dating for about two years and her daughter still cries and get mad when we kiss or hug etc. and my girlfriend don't agree. And  my girlfriend wants me to be a father figure but when I react like a father like disciplines not hit her or anything or give  advice  that she don't like she say she not your child.

[specialmom]

I answered this on the other forum.  Hope your girlfriend sees how hard you try and how good you are to her daughter-- adjusts her expectations.  good luck