i took my daughter to a gi and all he did was told me to use mineral oil and not to give her milk ( milk is a binding agent for poop) but she crosses her legs and hides and she tells me she is poopy when she really isnt
Hello , well im also having this problem with my 2 1/2 yr old son . he never wants to poop , before he was fine . and then a couple of weeks ago he started having issues pooping , he would stand on his tipy toes , hold on to something and squeeze his cheeks together so a liitle thing would come out . so now we are potty training him and its worse , he doesn't want to poop at all and he is getting but raws and it hurts him , what can I do to help him . ???
Read this. "its long-term risk is not known"
I'm wondering where someone has read Mirilax is bad long term. If they did I'd like to know where they have seen it. I have heard Mineral Oil isn't good long term but both my kids have been on Mirilax and have had no side effects and I've not heard that it will make them lose sphincter muscle control. If anyone read different, please let me know. It's about the safest as it gets for laxatives!!
Glad im not the only one my 3 year old son is the same and he will hold it all day till i put a nappie on him at night even if it hurts him its like he has a fear to go for a poo in the toilet or a potty i have tried everything..
... It is frustrating He was born with a condition called Imperfect anus so he had surgery when he was a day old and since then we have been dealing with hard stool, so to avoid that we've been giving him prune juice, he like it which is great, because the taste is not that good and he was doing great not constipation at all, the surgeon congratulates us for doing a awesome job taking care of him BUT LATELY 3 weeks today he is holding his poop..... It is crazy... well.... in my desperation when i see him making faces and holding it i go and push his belly and bend him forward so hi wont put much pressure in is butt, and works most all the times... but I am scare I don't want him to mess up his surgery... for sure I will make an appointment ASAP...
I agree with you about the potty training concept, not to make a big deal of it and they will come around on their own. But what these mothers are speaking of, and my Great Niece is having this issue as well, is not about potty training. My niece will not poop in a diaper either. She holds her cheeks together and when some comes out anyway, she cries like it is killing her. So, with this fear, constantly sitting in smudges of poop causing rashes, I sit by the bathroom door and act like a cheerleader to push the poop out;. She will eventually go and of course, it is much to large for such a small person from holding it. Then I have to try and wipe that rash which is painful. So now that she has gone, I have her in a t shirt of mine with no diaper to air out that bottom. I have never seen this kind of situation before and it is frustrating for all.
This is a genius idea! Thanks, I am trying it NOW with my [almost] two year old girl.
wow I just started reading comments about kids holding the poop, my grandson is 7 and he is still having this problem, i always blame my daughter and son in law but reading other people having the same problem makes me see its not there fault. they have given him everything you think of, its gotten to the point where he depends on enema once a week in order to go to the bathroom, he will be in alot of pain but then he gets relief, i wish someone could help my daughter with this problem i don't want him to get older and still have this problem. he still were pull ups. sad as it sounds. can someone help or tell us what to do dr's just keep on telling me its mental he needs to see a therapist.
I posted over a year ago and sad to say we have seen little improvement in our now 5 year old. We tried meds, we tried changing the diet, we tried rewards and punishment as well as multiple doctors. I really don't think there is anything else to try so we have pretty much stopped. It was becoming such a huge stresser on our entire family. It still can be but we have decided to take some time off - so to speak. We finally saw one of the top pediatric GIs in our area. He did a full physical exam and pages and pages of blood tests to check for any physical condition. His answer? This is something that is now occuring in aobut 10% of girls (and I think 15% of boys). For whatever reason she started holding she has taught her body that the feeling of needing to go poop is normal. He says the nerves in her rectum are not working correctly and the only thing that will change that is time and maturity and her deciding the importance of working on it. He says this typically happens between the ages of 7-9. While it's frustrating to know we could be dealing with this for years to come we have worked hard on her taking the responsibility of cleaning it up herself. This helps with our stress level as well. We also use the super thin panty liners in her underwear so if she streaks or has an accident she can just pull it out and either throw it or flush it.
We also talk honestly with her about the smell factor and that other people/children will not want to be around her if she is smelly. We stress that this needs to be her decision. We also on occasion will talk to her about the things she is missing out on because of the streaking/holding. We never know when it will occur so are not comfortable allowing her to go on playdates alone at this time except for a few close friends who understand the problem. She also can not take swimming lessons as a result. Hopefully this will help her decide for herself that it is important.
Good luck to everyone. I have a friend who has two girls with similar issues. The 9 year old is finally getting it; and her 7 year old is starting to so there is HOPE! :)
So sorry to hear of your teasing. My daughter is just under 2 1/2 and the other toddlers at her school are very concerned for her when she is in pain.
It comes and goes, it is not a constant issue. Sometimes she will have no problems pooping for weeks, then she will go through phases where she crosses her legs and struggles to keep it in. If I catch her soon enough, and force her into a sitting position, then she will have a big poop in her diaper. If I don't get to her soon enough, usually she just has a streak of poop. She used to go poo in her sleep, but now she will sometimes go a few days with only streaks. She is not afraid of the toilet, she pees on it, and will poo on it too occasionally, although sometimes she sits and nothing comes out. When she does poo it is typically soft, and not abnormal.
She has had this problem since about 16 months old, and I noticed that it was worse when she was teething (and had an accompanying rash). Has anyone else noticed a correlation with teething, and the problem just resolving on its own after the last molars were in?
Right now the pediatrician has her on laxatives, Restoralax. But it takes very high doses (20g/day) to work.
i am now 15 years old, i had this problem from grade 3 to 5 it is very serious i get teased every single day by my family and by "friends" i practically got bullied out of high school the solution isnt to get enemas and pills and stool softeners but to tease your kid a little, if he smells just friendly tease him a little each time or how ever you want to do it it will save your kid a life time of pain i had zero trauma or teasing or anything and now i get an upper lip twitch everytime i talk to people and i get twitches that my little brother has to deal with ive hurt others around me alot and it could have all been solved by some friendly teasing anger and sadness and even happiness dont mean anything to me anymore because my mind has dissociated from my feelings ive thought about suicide its not a joke
Wow!!! So glad I am not in this alone... I am truely lost that my 2 1/2 year old daughter will not poop on the potty.. She will wait until she has on a pull up to go and sometimes she doesnt even go then... When she finally decides she wants to go in the pull up of course its too late its already impacted and it hurts her. She pees on potty just fine will not pee on herself IF she has underwear on.. If she has pull up on the potty goes completely out the window.. so I withheld the pullups for bed time only and she knows this and this is her opportunity to do the do!! Im lost and confused.. please help
Man... i thought i was at this alone Apparently not Im real glad I have also done miralax and suppositories but my 3 year old son continues to try and hold it Its jard to deal with something like this cause i am trying to potty train him He goes pee by himself but same thing like many others have said he goes and hides from everyone in site but i hope you have found the solution since you wrote this on 07 Im still trying to figure this out Glad i found this site cause i read a lot of amazing tips thanks to my husband
Hello All, So glad this is more normal then I thought, and not just my son having these problems, My son goes pee no problem on the potty, but when its time for BM he has to use a pull up. This has been going on for about a year now. But about 2 weeks ago his mom started pushing the potty issue, trying to persuade/force him to use one. He's been deathly afraid of pooping on the potty ever sense his first experience when water splashed up on his butt. He thought something was reaching up to pull him down into the toilet. (Scary movies had a big role in this)
I've noticed whenever we give him cheeze doodles he has a very hard time going #2 pull up or no pull up. Well I'm not sure what set off this holding is poo in but for about 2 weeks now he's been holding his poo in.
It went about 5 days without a BM then I bought a ped enema and stuck his but in the tub. After about 2 hrs of every emotion possible, I finally was able to get him to go, He felt so much better and actually kept going for the rest of that day. Forgive me for the graphic nature of these next few statements but they were so big I had to squeeze them out because they were the size of a pool ball, they're were two of them. He went to the bathroom the next night in his pull up, but when his aunt and mother started pushing the potty again sure enough he started holding it again. So now were at day 5 again. I just tried the bathtub trick again and he won't go, I gave him about an oz of enemia but still no luck. He won't even let the fluid from the enema out. I tried to reasure him no one would push the potty on him anymore but he's still holding it. To add to it, he's caught what ever was going around my sisters house in WV. They're always seems to be a 48hr bug that we all catch just before we leave. So I'm thinking he's having adverse effects from not pooping. aahhahaaaah
I don't know why I can't get him to see he's hurting himself.
I finally decided to research my 3 yr 4 mo daughter's reluctance to pooping. This has been going on since the summer. She is not potty trained at all (which I think has to do with her baby sister being born in June) but now will not poop. We have done enemas, Miralax, and are now using Colace. The MIralax just made her go constantly and made her butt raw. The Colace seems to be softening her stool but she runs around the house screaming and will cross her legs as to hold it in. I dont know what else to do!!! We have bribed her, nothing works!! She wont poop in her pullup or the potty. I think it is psychological as she is afraid it is going to hurt but we are so frustrated and don't know how to help her! We are going to really push her sitting on the potty because she "doesnt want to poop on the potty" as she states. Good luck everyone. Its comforting to be able to find information on the net that relates to our situation.
oops and one more point, if his pants are off he won"t hold ! almost as if he knows it has noone to land if he fails and he doesn"t seem to wanna risk that ! Like I said all sounds psychological to me.
I didn't mention my son is 31/2 and has been toilet trained since may last year. And for the most part has been fine although at times needed reminding which up until now wasn't a problem. And most of all has found it difficult to remove himself from an engaging and fun circumstance particularly when I am not around; to go the toilet. Having said that until now it wasn't a major issue. And when I say now probably about a month or two but in away that has been increasing and has really only become a huge issue in the last few weeks and tends to get worse when he has been out of my care !
Like alot of you I am hugely relieved that this is a common problem. But there are alot of points I have to make that no one else to seem to share yet and I'm hoping that someone might. When my son holds on: encouraging him to go seems to make things a whole lot worse and sometimes if i say nothing at all, ignore him and walk away so he is a little less engaged in anything, he will take himself off to the toilet. But it doesn't always work and other times I fail to say nothing and things escalate. I haven't sought out medical help yet. mainly because I feel the problem is mostly psychological at this stage. I don"t feel he is holding for pain ( i could be wrong) i think its a control thing. Perhaps its both. Either way he is eating and one way or another the poo comes out so I don't think that there is any reason for medication etc at this stage. He starts preschool two days a week and that is my main concern. And it causes me reluctance and anxiety to go out with him for long periods. One of the main reasons I feel its unrelated to pain and mostly an act of autonomy is that when it started it was for wee and poo. I seemed to have combated the wee problem by simply leaving him be and while he may hold on for a short time he will go in his own time.
Before I rattle on to much is anyone experienced something similar. He doesn' t seem to be especially constipated, his diet is really high in fibre and when he does go it isn"t hard, it just might take some time to get out if I actually get him on the toilet after he has already soiled his pants. This is the only way I can get him on after he has already started in his pants.
We have been dealing with this for over a year now with our 3.3 year old son. We have seen GI specialists. He has had enemas, high doses of miralax continuously with no results. My husband finally pulled some strings to see a very highly regarded specialist in this area in Indianapolis. He took him off of the miralax (now we only use high doses to clean out when he withholds for long periods of time) and he put him on mineral oil. He said that for some kids it works better. And it did for our son too! He started pooping on the potty consistently. The doctor told us to start putting him on 10 min after breakfast and 10 min after dinner. We eventually added lunch time in on our own. Mineral oil was really heaven sent for a while. Our problem now however, is that our little guy is too smart and refuses to drink anything that has the mineral oil or miralax in it. The result is a lot of withholding, distended tummy, constipation, etc. It is a continuous cycle. The mineral oil needs to be in something cold. Ice cream has worked but we tend to not give too much dairy. The doctor said that this could take as long as a year or more to get under control. Any suggestions on creative things to put either mineral oil into or miralax into? Thanks!
I forgot to mention that we usually only juice 1 large or 2 smaller oranges, about 4-6 ounces. It don't think it takes a lot to to be effective; and I wouldn't want to give my child a lot of orange juice on a daily basis (1-2 cups or more).
####### FRESH SQUEEZED ORANGE JUICE!!!!! #######
Someone recommended giving fresh squeezed orange juice once a day (if possible first thing in the morning on empty stomach) and we've had great results. We have an electric citrus juicer, so making juice is a snap, and electric citrus juicers are not that expensive.
Our 3 yr old son, for several months, has been holding his poop for up to 5 days (we started keeping track). When he would get to the jumpy stage, we'd have to finally sit him on the toilet and wait til he finally goes, which was usually met with lots of resistance.
It has been about a month now since we began giving him orange juice in the mornings and he's been going every 2-3 days now. We saw results pretty quickly after starting and the resistance to going to the bathroom is markedly reduced.
I hope this works for others! Enjoy the holidays!
It is called Encopresis and not taken care of early can lead to problems throughout the Childs life. Look it up online there is quite a bit of references on the subject. My son has it and we are working to fix the problem.
Thank you all for sharing your stories. My wife and I are dealing with the same thing with our almost 4 year old son who is a fraternal twin. His brother goes fine and he did too until about June of this year when he started holding it and not going and then he started having runny accidents in his pants over and over. We are so tired of having to change poopy pants and underwear and now my son has not had a BM for almost a week and I am really concerned for him. His tummy is tight and I think we will take him into the urgent care center tomorrow. We have tried miralax and it worked to soften it but did not fix the aversion to pooping on the toilet. My wife and I are scouring the internet looking for help and we are trying to decide how to revamp his diet and see if that helps. We are at the point of trying anything. My wife is reading about allergies as a possible cause and or sensitivity to certain foods such as dairy or gluten.