Parenting Toddlers (1-5) Community
3.37k Members
Avatar universal

3 yr old son refuses to eat by himself.

hi my son who recently turned 3 refuses to eat by himself.He just started Preschool .His teachers also complain the same that he refuses to sit during lunch time and totally refuses to eat..until he is spoon fed.

He has been recently diagnosed with slight Autism.He has always been a good eater.At the age of 1and half, he taught himself to use the spoon and fork and always ate by himself...but then he became  very picky.To help him eat more types of food..I started to spoon feed him and now he eats all types of food.But I cant get him to feed himself.He will throw tantrums and refuses to eat at all. (if i try to feed him...he will eat well).But now I am strict that he should eat by himself...and I wont feed him,(thats to help him be independent in school.)

I feel very sad when he does not eat well and goes to bed without a full dinner.

His Early intervention classes begin soon.I really hope they can guide me with training my son.

Do any one out there have suggestions of what I can do to help him be independent again- and start to eat his  meals by himself?
3 Responses
1039620 tn?1272597604
It might be just a phase. My son, who is also three, went through this a while back. He's a good eater, but one day he decided he didn't want to do it himself anymore. I don't know if it is boredom or what, but he wouldn't eat unless someone fed him. Finally, I quit feeding him. There were a few times he went to bed without a full dinner, but eventually, when they are hungry, they will feed themselves again. Try to remember that toddlers won't let themselves starve and I'm sure this is just a phase for your son, too.
1072551 tn?1258206866
Autistic kids tend to be pretty picky eaters. Is there someone at his PS that knows how to work with autistic kids? If not maybe you should look into it.
Avatar universal
Hi friends, thanks for repling. Well I tried as Victoria01, has told...1 day I just insisted he had to eat by himself  ..in a "big kid " way and mommy will not be helping him..but he ate just half of the food and ran away.I did feel sad, but I stuck to my resolve.Lo behold, next morning he finished his whole breakfast by himself..he did run around here and there..but thats ok. At least he ate his whole meal by himself, and has been consistent ever since.:)

I am really relived.Yesterday his teacher also was very pleased to tell me that he finished all his lunch by himself..she was proud of him too.

Thanks friends. like u said it may have been a phase and he has grown out of  it.

Thanks for helping me :)
Have an Answer?
Top Parenting Answerers
13167 tn?1327197724
Austin, TX
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Fearing autism, many parents aren't vaccinating their kids. Can doctors reverse this dangerous trend?
Learn which over-the-counter medicines are safe for you and your baby
Yummy eats that will keep your child healthy and happy
6 essential foods for new moms (and their newborns!)
What to expect in your growing baby
Learn which foods aren't safe to eat when you're eating for two.