almost 6 year old step son

[susji2]

I have a 5 year old son who just came to this country, speaks a little english, was physically abused in prior home, and very behavioral.  He is so defiant and seems to want to be punished.  He doesn't seem to care is he is punished.  I am not sure what type of discipline to use with him.  I don't want to spank b/c he has been abused before.  Help.  I can not seem to control him at all.

[Mommy3Girls]

You're welcome. I hope all goes well for you. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

[susji2]

Thanks.  

[Mommy3Girls]

You can take him to a counselor and tell them you want help for him and help knowing how to help him through these things without meds. They cant/and wont make you put him on meds. Just tell them you want help without using medication. It doesnt hurt to call around. Good luck!

[susji2]

I don't think meds will help or will be healthy.  The docs now just want to treat pain with meds.  Even healy sadness is often medicated.  But if it doesn't get better I will ask for mor help.  Hopefully love will get him through it

[Mommy3Girls]

You may want to contact a pediatrician or a counselor to see what can be done to help him heal from his past pain.