Background: My son is 3.4 years old. I would describe him as a very active, bright, happy, cooperative, social, sweet, sensitive and VERY gentle boy. He has asthma and is on Symbicort and Singulair daily. We are VERY attentive, loving, gentle and sensitive parents. We use a firm voice and time-outs when needed-balanced with tons of encouragement and praise. I am pregnant and due in January-he has no other siblings. He went to a preschool camp in the summer and was very gentle and happy.
Problem: This year, he started a new preschool for the first time about 6 weeks ago (5 mornings a week ). Since this time, he has been quite aggressive at school with his peers and at home too. At home, he is defianty and always seems to be testing limits. He will hit my husband and I and pulled hair once (most often unprovoked). He will hit my pregnant stomach and say "I'm hitting baby brother" or "Can I hit squeeze baby brother when he is born?"
The teachers at school report his aggression is almost always out of the blue and not triggered by anything obvious. He has kicked a boy in the head (did it three times repeatedly until a teacher intervened), pushed, hit, punched, tried to bite. Every day there are about 3 aggressive acts lately. He also has a reported lack of personal space/boundaries at school with peers-he will sit on a child or hug a child until they fall and do it three times in a row. He continues to do the same behavior within the same day and the next. Although he is very verbal and social at home, his teachers have noted that he is not verbal or playing interactively with his friends.
I observed him in class and he seemed a bit bored by the activities and it is quite structured in nature. The aggression often occurs during unstructured moments after he had been required to sit and focus on things.. He is now being sent home from school and it looks like he is heading towards being kicked out. Thanks for any help