My stepson hates me

[Leerah]

I have a 11year old step son, he will be tuning 12 soon. He is giving me so much issues. Im married to his father 5years now and the pproblems are getting worse. He was failing in school and I was the who managed to get to him a psychologist. He was  Diagnosed with add/adhd. He is on medication and Got him into a clinical school. He is now passing in school, infact he is doing great in school. However his attitude towards me is so terrible. He lies, steals, he tells me off whenever he gets a chance. I am never ever doing the right for him. When I give him food its either too much or too little. Im the one who is giving him a better life. I pay for the very expensive school he goes too. I do everything for him yet he tells me to leave, his father will find another mother for him. He now is trying to take my place in the house. He is starting to do everything I do. I really don’t know what to do any longer. He is really trying his best to get rid off me. This child hates. The only time he acts nice is when his father is around.

[Worriedparent1021]

Your husband needs to have a long talk with his son. I have an 11yr old daughter from a previous relationship and she acts like she hates my husband, who has been in her life for 7 years. Her bio. Father hasn't seen her since she was 4 and I believe she resents my husband because maybe she thinks he's the reason her bio father isn't around, that he's the reason I'm not married to her bio. Father.
I've spoken to her about it but I have a 6yr old son with my husband and my daughter feels like she's on the outside.
She resents her step dad, he treats her so good. He provides her with what she needs and wants etc. He always tries to include her and talk to her, but she is straight up rude to him. He tries to talk to her about her behavior and she ignores him. It has to come from me.
Your husband needs to tell him that he isn't acting right. At the very least he needs to show you respect. He can be reminded that even tho you are his step mom, your not trying to replace hir birth mom. Tell him too that you aren't going anywhere. He needs consequences for his actions. He wants to take over what you do around the house, then give him a chore list and thank him for helping you out.

[AnnieBrooke]

You are doing nothing to contribute to the negatives of the situation?  You are a good, loving, kind, fun, supportive and friendly stepmother and you are even paying for everything, and for your trouble you are getting a lot of cr ap from the kid?  If that is true, I would be wondering if the man is worth it.