I am very concerned about my (almost) 3 year olds recent behavior. when he was born, i had full custody until he was 2 years old. In October 2008, we went to court and the judge compltely reversed the custody arrangements because he said i was trying to "excise," the father out of our son's life. Although this was not the case, the judge seemed to want to make an example out of me. I have been without custody of my son since then, and we go back to court at the end of this month for my appeal.
My sons behavior has changed, for the worst, dramatically. He is fully potty trained, but lately while he's throwing a temper tantrum and when he’s really upset, he tells me hes going to pee on the floor and he thinks its hilarious. he has peed on the floor many times, and last weekend he pooped on my floor. He cusses at me, tells me, “I don’t wanna hear your damn mouth,” and, “Shut your damn mouth,” he calls me an *** and tells me hes going to shoot me and hits me. I know his father spanks him and I think that’s why he hits me. he also takes him to the shooting range and he has shot deer on the side of the road with my son in the car and I think this is why he says he’s going to shoot me. when we see a deer (at the zoo or in our back yard) he calls it a, “Boom Boom,” instead of a deer. Would it effect a young child in a negative way to witness a deer being shot? also, when it is time for him to go back to his fathers house, he screams, “I don’t wanna go to my daddys,” over and over and he gets SO upset its hard to even get him dressed. his behaviors have gotten worse as each month has gone by. he has gotten more and more upset when its time to go back to his dads house and its really upsetting to see this affecting my young son this way. Does anyone has any insight into regressive behaviors by children going through a bad custody situation
Would this be considered PTSD ? Please help if you can and let me know if these behaviors can be changed.