only child

[me50]

help me please i am so torn i have an only child 7 years old 8 in aug im 28 ,i know theres plenty of time to have another if i decide but my sons getting older and the gap bigger . i like things the way they are and so does my husband .my son seems to as well but over the last year ive noticed him looking at babies and he has started asking for one . im worried if i dont he will always have a longing .he has a few friends at school but i know hes a bit shy same as his dad at hes age .i grew up with sibs so i know how nice it is and i can picture doing it and im sure i would be happy but when i talk myself into it my gut tells me no . i dont no whats wrong with me i can see were fine now but i do think about another sometimes but never a broody feeling i keep thinking i should just go for it im sure id be ok if i did but its not deep down what i want but at the same time i cant help worrying about my son helppppppppppppppppppp

[me50]

thanks for your reply i am happy with one the doubt came from him asking for a baby and worrying im doing him an injustice or that there is a unhappyness inside . i know deep down he would love one and would like me to say yes but at the same time i know hes happy as he is .

[colemomma]

If you are having this much doubt, my best opinion would be not to have another child at this point or just leave it in the Lord's hands.  If He wants you to have another child you will, but you are having these doubts for a reason.  I have four boys and there is a six year gap between my 10 month old and my 6 year old.  I know how you feel when you say you are happy with the way things are.  We actually didn't plan on having another baby, but the good Lord had other plans.  Our family has welcomed this new little one with open arms and my six year old loves having a little brother.  I know that every family is different and having another child is a HUGE decision not only emotionally but financially as well.  You could put the emotion part aside for a moment and just think about it in a financial aspect, but I've been told numerous times that if everyone waited till they could afford a baby, there would be no babies.  We are creatures of pattern and habit so the very thought of introducing something that would totally disrupt that pattern is a bit daunting to say the least.  Don't know if this helped any but I wish you the best.  I say pray about it and it will all work out!!