How do I tell my family?

[scared_alone]

I have recently gone to the doctor and she thinks I probably have PCOS. I did some blood tests today and will find out for sure next thursday. The problem is I haven't told my family about any of this. My sister and I and my mom are pretty close...but I just don't know how to tell them. I don't want them to think I'm sick...Any Advice?

[meanie2823]

I think the hardsest thing about sharing the news with your family is that you dont want to feel like a failure. I mean thats kind of the way I felt. It almost makes you feels as though you are not a whole or complete person. But I'm sure that you have a wonderful family who will be very understanding and supportive of you. Having pcos can be so fustrating....and sometimes confusing because there is no real cure or treatment for it but just having the support of the people who really care about you and have your best interest at heart will make things so much easier. One peice of advise I would give you is to find a really good OBGYN if you dont have one that can really explain things to you such as your alternatives and treatment b/c the ultimate goal is to have a LITTLE ONE and to be HEALTHY. I wish you the best and stay positive.

[Cammz]

Ultimately the decision is yours. It is your body and if you dont feel comfortable disclosing that information then dont. You must not be forced to tell them if you are not ready. Give yourself time to deal with it but at the same time you need to have at least 1 person who you can confide in, to help or just 2keep your sanity cos your mind will wonder about lotts of things. Even if you have someone just listen to you and not say anything that helps too. If you ever need to vent your feelings even if its fustrations remember we are all here for you. God bless you. C

[scared_alone]

Thanks for your input...I do think I need to get used to it before I tell anyone...but Idk ........

[msniki412]

I guess I must be the only weird one on here. I had no problems with telling my family about my PCOS or even my boyfriend. Actually we were all happy it wasen't something more serious like cancer. But for me, it took  a while to figure out what my problem was. I went to so many doctors and nobody knew what was wrong with me. And I guess I finally found the right doctor, and low and behold he knew what was wrong with me. I was happy to finally know what I was dealing with and how to fix it. I'm young too, so started a family is not on my mind at this moment....like most ladies who have PCOS. So, I guess when it comes time to start TTC, maybe I will have a harder time dealing with my PCOS. All in all, PCOS is more common then some might think. It is the number 1 factor for most woman to have.

[Cammz]

There is no easy way 2tell them. You jus have to sit them down and tell them. Its important 4you both 2tell them as suport from family members are crucial cos that is what wil get u thro this dificult tym. They are family who love u after all and they wil be understanding. Good luck, keep me posted. Take care. God bless. C

[ConnieG]

I waited until it sunk in fully to my head.  It took over a month for me to tell anyone.  I didn't even want to tell my husband.  After I finally decided that pretending it wasn't true wouldn't make it go away, and I couldn't handle it on my own I told my best friend.  
Then I told my husband (now ex-hub) because he deserved to know.  And after that sunk in I told my family.

I sat down with my mom when we were shopping one day and told her everything.  At first she was very mad and refused to believe it.  After a few days it sunk in to her and she has been more than supportive since the initial reaction.  After it sunk with her I talk to my dad.  He took it quietly and has left the subject alone except when I have checkups and sonograms.  He has been supportive as well.  

I told my husband (current....that sounds so bad, lol) as soon as we started getting serious dating so he could choose how serious he wanted to be, if having kids of his own was important he needed to find someone else.  But after he decided that he could deal with adoption if need be he was okay and we ended up marrying......

So I guess I'm trying to say, tell people when YOU are most comfortable with it, they may not react initially how you would hope, but in time it should all work out.  So if you are having trouble swallowing it and they may not be supportive at first wait until it sinks in.  If they are supper supportive and you tell them anything tell them right away so they can help in your healing process...........

My prayers are with you!!

[icedrop]

I'm going thru the same thing. I did tell a friend but I am afraid to tell my mother. 1 is that I don't want her to worry and 2 if she sees the whole "trouble conceiving'' thing she may freak especially since some family members think that  we are jealous of a recent birth in the family. (So not true) so I'm on the fence also.