My wife has no sex drive with PCOS

[oldsmobilia]

I know there have been questions like this posted before, but is there nothing to improve a woman's sex drive that is low due to PCOS? My wife has had a low sex drive for the last couple of years and was just diagnosed with PCOS about 9 months ago. She was put on the pill and that was that. There is no pain for her during sex, she just has no desire anymore. She enjoys it the once a month that we actually do it. I know weight loss is a big factor in improving symptoms, ( she's about 25lbs heavier thant she was ) but how can women be motivated to get in shape when they don't feel like they have the energy to get out of bed half the time? They treated my wife with the pill just to manage her periods.  There has to be something better than this and I feel the medical community is dropping the ball on PCOS. My wife is only 22 and I'm 29, we've been married for 4 years and have a great relationship other than the sex. Yes, I've tried the "spice things up" approach ppl suggest in other comments to no avail. There has to be some lab rat or doctor out there willing to do more than sell people birth control when their lives are being ruined by this horrible affliction!

[katiekattt]

I have the opposite problem, my boyfriend has no sex drive and I wish he did. He's 31. I have pcos and sex drive isn't really a problem now. I think for her it's probably the birth control, it did that to me. I'm taking metformin now, only been on it for a month so I don't know how it will work, but I've heard good things about it.

[pcos118]

http://www.fairhavenhealth.com/fertilecm.html

Try those! They have great products for those of us with PCOS and Trying to conceive! Good luck!

[brokevagina]

Hi, yes im 26 been married to my older husband for 6 years, and ive had NO.......sex drive of ANY kind the last 3 years, and was diagnosed over a year ago. I know this affects my husband who would like  to do it every night,lol, but we dont, cause sex is literally a chore for me, and either hurts or feel nothing at all. i ofcourse had a wonderful healthy sex life before, and at the beginning first 2 years, but i feel HORRIBLE, that i cant satisfy him, and when we do have sex, im not really into it all. I know its hard for you as a husband, but even harder for us, cuz we do remember once upon a time liking it, and kno were letting youll down. i feel my husband will cheat on me , again,  and i blame myself for not giving him what he needs, im on here trying to do research my self to improve my sex drive. pcos has ruined m,y life, and not only that, ive gained a ton of weight, and my long thick hair is now thin and brittle:( i hope we both find what were looking for, thanks for listening your not alone, sincerely, BROKE VAGINA

[Elle82]

I to have PCOS, I was diagnosed back in 2003 when I was 22yrs old, I did have that lack of drive until we started trying for a baby, I was put on medication and a few months later I was pregnant with our first child. Two years after that our second was born.  And we are currently trying for a third.  I am not by any means telling you that you should try to have a baby to get her drive going, but it helped with me.I think the best thing you can do is to be really supportive of her and make sure that she knows you are there and you understand what she is faced with.  She will be on an emotional rollercoster but knowing you are there and will be by her side may also help.  Just remember alot of the time with women it is the little things that count and will turn her on.

[ButterBuns]

Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear you are having such a bad time. I can totally relate to your wife almost to the T. I'm also glad to see that you are very understanding, my husband not so much. ugh This is all new for us so he's not that educated just yet. Well I know you said you tried spicing things up but have you talked to her about your concerns? Why don't your try telling her you need it? I always feel terrible when my husband wants sex and I have no drive...it really makes me sad bc I can't help it, so I feel for you I really do. But when he tells me he needs me I want to bc I live to make him happy it's just unfortunate I don't initiate it anymore bc the lack in drive. And you're right about enjoying it once it happens. Try date nights too...remember in the past maybe before you were married after the date always comes sex. I just want to give some advise on spicing things up from a woman's perspective...try sentual massage the whole body paying attention to errogenous zones the kneck, in between thighs, etc and kissing her body and talk about how much you love everything about her beautiful body, maybe you two could try masturbating together, oral is a must pretty much any 4 play is good, try watching a porno together and reenacting it, pamper her, tell her she is sexy, beautiful talk dirty and tell her how bad you want her, take her shopping and make sure you stop by the lingerie store. Everything still works you just need to get things going sometimes applying much effort to get there. Hey if doctor's need a lab rat trust I would be willing bc I so agree that they are neglectful when it comes to PCOS.  I'm sorry that I can't offer more especially since I experience the lack like your wife but try talking to her about it. If your marriage is solid and good she will do everything she can to make you happy. I've heard of something like viagra for men being offered for women it's not viagra but it's something that is supposed to increase sex drive. Maybe she should discuss this with her specialist and give it a shot. Best wishes BB