im 42 had pcos forever, had a child...will always suffer the hair, acne and depressioni

[twistalime]

My headline says it all.  I have never found a discussion group for anyone like me, who is past the age that I want to have any more kids (Im 42).  I was blessed with one child that I was able to have after having a bilateral wedge resection back in 1992.  That surgery fixed my pco's, or at least my ovarys/periods...I have had periods every 28 days since the surgery in 92...My marriage failed so I never had more kids, but I believe I am still fertile because of my regular periods.   after you reach this point in life, you are still left with the acne and hair and depression.  I guess what I am saying is that the primary focus on this disorder is conceiving, but I am here to say that after youre past that, theres still the aftermath of the disorder.  It is a multi faceted disorder!  I find the plucking of my hair after 20+ years so depressing.  I hate the fact that if I have an extra busy day at work, and perhaps the room was warm, I get to the car and find big fat hairs sticking out everywhere.  I don't meet anyone for dinner at 5...because I must go home first and pluck.  I feel imprisoned by this constant challenge to my feminity!  arent the only women supposed to be hairy homeless bag women?  or the butt of some comedians joke about women with mustaches?  Its not supposed to happen to attractive females...but yet it does.  I have acne like a teenager, scars from acne, its not only unsighly, but painful as well.  Im moody, and I just still feel ripped off, for sometimes feeling lke a hairy freak.  And just to be direct, nowadays it seems to be in fashion for women to be bald...down there....and to someone with pco's where talking about a huge ordeal, that only results in painful boils once the hair grows back.  boils seem to be a part of pcos as well.  Or how about wearing capri pants and a woman going, oh you didnt shave your legs either?? hahah....when in actuality I shaved 2 hours previoiusly. my hariness just seems to be open for discussion....or people will see my arms and go OMG, dang, youre hairy.  I just recently started having my hair dresser take me to the back room and dye the arm hair blonde....its very uncomfy for 8 minutes but its been lasting about 6 weeks so ive been happy with it.  Anyway, sorry for the rants, I hope you can all just see that Im depressed and have no one else to talk to about all of this!  thanks!!

[Caribbean_Love]

Hello there..
Well let me start off by saying believe I know what you are going through..although I suffered from the hirsutism for over 20 + years..was married once ttc for over 17 years ...ex left me..honestly I had had enough of life's crap bowl..I resulted to shaving because I had no alternative...so of course shaving makes the stinking hairs thicker...waxing does slow it down..I've even done electrolysis...wht pyscho thought that up!!!!  Good God!...it hurt like haities AND it didn't work...my Gyn said to me one visit...What the heck are you still doing shaving! I told her what I've tried and she set me up with a Laser technician...I'm here to tell you...it was a long process but I NO longer have to shave and my skin is soft as a babies butt!!...there's still a few stragglers but the hairs are fine AND she only charges me for $25.00 touch ups...I LOVE her and YES! I'm saving to do my legs and underarms!!!!
People can be so cruel!! and I know the feeling of constantly battling femininity...so devastating to ones self esteem..
I unfortunately have not had a successful pregnancy since of my PCOS..I'm 40 and trying even harder!!
Wishing you much joy!! and if you need someone to talk to ...you know where to find me!
DA

[nickieb85]

Hey it is totally understandable... I have to wax my facial hair (chin and neck) every few days and my arm and leg hair grow and to me it is totally unsightly. I bleach my upper lip hair and my hormones are just totally out of whack. I am pregnant (after trying for over 2 years and being diagnosed with PCOS) and it only makes everything sooooo much worse. I hope that someone finds a resolution to this problem because we shouldn't have to suffer like this for the rest of our lives!