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why not me??

I've been wanting a baby for a long time now.  I'm 37 and my boyfriend and I are very sexually active. We do not use protection,  However, he does not finish inside me every time. My doctor says I am fertile and can become pregnant whether he finishes inside me or not. Has anyone here become pregnant from pre ejaculate....or am I just wishing for something that is just not going to happen?
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One mama shared her story here. She slept with two men one with her boy friend anf one with someone els, she said that both of them did not ejaculate inside her. She posted the Q ask help to fond out who is the father...
I hope every thing goes well for you and her
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You could always track your basil temp to find those 3 key days for him to follow through to the finish then lay there for 10-15 minutes before getting up.  Elevating your pelvis with a pillow will also help.  I did fertility treatments and that was part of my early regimen.
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I am pregnant from precum but I think you need to stop trying or stop focusing on it so much and maybe it will happen! I use try hard to get pregnant and when I stop trying here I am now pregnant. Nevertheless good luck honey
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I tried for 2 years to conceive my firsr. 3 years to conceive my second. My second just turned 1 and I am 21/5 weeks with #3. I always got pregnant after giving up.
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My husband and I use the withdrawal method - I have an eight year old girl and am 27 weeks pregnant with daughter number two. It definitely does happen!
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Thank you for your replies. Maybe I should relax and not try so hard. I just feel nervous because I'm not getting any younger.  Congrats to all of you expecting!
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You need to be having sex in the days leading up to ovulation and your partner needs to ejaculate inside your vagina to increase your chances.. It took hubby and I two years to fall pregnant so sometimes it just takes time. It's a big struggle and I was very down for a long time there. We kinda just gave up a bit and just enjoyed sex again and being with each other and we fell pregnant.. If my memory is correct I had a pillow under my hips when he finished up., helps of your pelvis is a bit higher.
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Just a suggestion but u could get him checked. Maybe it's a problem with his sperm count. Does help if he finishes in you though!
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I did but lost that baby. Try charting your cycle to make sure you are having sex during your fertile time. Many women don't ovulate around the 14th day as is average.
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Is it me or it sounds like the pregnancy is one sided wish? Why in the world would he pull out if you're both trying for a baby? Yes I'm being the devils advocate! Seen way too many babies brought into this world without a strong family foundation. Sorry but if it's meant to be it's meant to be! But honestly BOTH participants should be on board and possibly this is why it's not happening.
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You should both get fertility testing first of all to make sure you aren't wasting time, especially at this age. I'm surprised your doctor did not recommend this.
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I'm surprised,  since you want to get pregnant,  that your doctor didn't ask why your boyfriend doesn't want you to be pregnant.  That's a problem.

Some women do get pregnant on the withdrawal method,  but if you're trying to get pregnant that's not the best way to go about it.

Have you talked to your partner about wanting to be pregnant?  If you do get pregnant,  although he's trying to prevent it,  will he support your baby?
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Oops,  just reread your original post.

is there some reason,  since you're trying hard to get pregnant,  that your boyfriend doesn't "finish inside" every time?
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My husband and I had unprotected sex for years before I had my baby. I'm 42, she's 1 day old. But I do agree with other posters, something else is up here. Perhaps a talk with boyfriend is in order.
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I was told if you are having sex (with ejaculation inside the vagina) 50% of healthy couples will conceive within 6 months of trying.  
Is there a physical reason he can't ejaculate inside you? (Erectile dysfunction) if so then discuss fertility aids like iui (or a home kit "Turkey baster" type thing).
If your partner doesn't want a child you need to sort out some contraception and stop tricking him.  It will only end in tears -if you get pregnant he won't be happy and if you don't you'll have wasted your last fertile years with non effective attempts!
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I thought I could never get pregnant. Separated from my husband last March
Met my new boyfriend in July. Told him I couldn't get pregnant. We got pregnant 1 month later! Sometimes things just do or do not happen for a reason. I'm so happy and he's like " we haven't been together that long" a bit stressful. But give it time. If it's not meant to be right now. Then trust in God's decisions for you.
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Oh yeah....CVS sells ovulation tests...worth a shot
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