feeling guilty and sad at the same time

[Sonia1101]

Well, first of all I have 2 boys, older 10 and youngest 6  this is my 3rd pregnancy and I'm on my 7th week and feeling so bad and guilty at the same time because I'm so hoping for this to be a girl that every time I go at the store and see baby girl clothes I feel happy and a smile comes right away but when I turn to the baby boys side I get mad and don't want to think about it and go out of the store so depressed, what can I do? People tell me not to worry about baby sex as long as it's healthy but I can't take it out of my mind and start crying...
Just for info, with my first son doctor had my ultrasound wrong and told me it was a girl and I had 3 baby showers and still at this time after 10 years still have baby girl clothes from then.

[Sonia1101]

Thanks naweskim!!
I wish for this to be a girl but now I  feel better on whatever God send me, now I already found a car seat and stroller for boy and a girl, so when I find out I already have some things that I will get, now I'm enjoying my pregnancy at full !!!
Thanks for sharing your experience!! ;)

[naweskim]

I have 2 boys 12 and 10 years old and I 'm now pregnant with my 3rd I've always wanted to have a girl and now God has bless me with a little angel due this summer. We used the Shetteles Method I heard of this method and my husband and I decided to try and it works I'm so excited can wait to meet her. But what matters it to have a healthy baby either boy or girl. Good luck Sonia1101

[Sonia1101]

Isaknhenrysmama, thanks for sharing your feeligs with me, exactly the same feelings I had with my second son, It took me a while to get that "connection " with him, now he is 6 years old and is the sweetest boy in the world, he shows me how much he loves me at almost every hour, I love them 2 so much now that now if God send me another boy I know is going to take some time to get strong feelings with him but at the end mother nature will always help us on that, try to bond more with her and spend the most you can, those moments never comes back.

[isaknhenrysmama]

I have 2 boys ages 5 and 16 months. I also have 7 week girl. I desperately wanted another boy. 7 weeks and I still don't have "those" feelings for my daughter. I treat her like any baby deserves to be treated but I can't say that I love her. The doctors say it is normal and will get better but I am doubtful at this point. I hope you have an easier time than me. Good luck mama.

[Sonia1101]

OMG!! I feel so much better know, I was feeling like I was a bad mom, and affraid to not to se my little one with love and all of those feelings we have when we saw our babies.
Today I talk to my mom about it, she give me the most deepest explanations and together with all of you make me understand that no matter what God send me, will be special in many ways.
This baby was kind of an accident because I didn't want to get pregnant because of this feelings, but God send me this beautiful gift and couldn't better, I will find out my baby's gender around mothers day and will be due on my birthday.... isn't it the best birthday gift a mother can have??
Thank you all for taking the time to share your feelings with me :)

[Amina4ae]

I too have emotions that sometimes I wouldn't want any other to know about! I have one son, he will be 18 when this baby is born and 3 girls 17,11&9... I want a little boy too! Enough with the hormones in this house lol. But on a serious note, I secretly pray the ultrasound tech was wrong when saying it's a girl... Still haven't bought anything and I'm 31 weeks. Will not get any gender specific items until baby is born cause hope is alive until delivery day right?!? Yup I'm in denial but there is still a glimmer of hope

[Cyn38]

I have two boys, 19 and 11.  Now preg with 3rd.  (Yeah, I'm crazy).  I felt the same as you with my first.  I wanted only a girl.  I was so disappointed the ultrasound showed a boy and I felt guilty for feeling that way.  With my 2nd, it didn't really matter.  A girl would have been great, but I now knew how sweet and loving boys can be.  I love having boys.  If this one is a boy, I'll be happy.  Try to think of the pros and cons of both.  I tell myself "girls can be so sassy. We'll probably bump heads in the teenage years."  Then you worry about boyfriends.  I know I was not the easiest teenager to deal with.  
Something to consider if you can...what if you waited on the ultrasound and avoid the letdown feeling?  When you are presented with a beautiful baby, it won't matter!  Lol

[Sonia1101]

Thank you for posting your feelings with me, feeling a bit better knowing that I'm not alone on this

[mommytobe_5]

Definitely know the feeling, I wanted a boy so bad but was confirmed this will be my 5th girl!!!..yes I was disappointed and this pregnancy is totally different so of course thought that was a sign it was a boy..guess it wasn't meant to be as I'm having tubes tied...BUT I understand exactly how u feel (I'm still hoping on next ultrasound they will see it's a boy...lol) good luck and congrats on u and your baby!

[Ma_vuvu]

Goodluck.  I know the feeling was also hoping for a girl as I already have 2 boys but turned out that I am having another boy

[Sonia1101]

Thank you girls for your imput, I know it's pretty soon for me (7weeks only) I guess I have to put on my mind from now that I'm having a boy so if I get the ultrasound and they say it's a boy, my mind and heart will be more prepared to that and hope not to feel so bad or sad when that happens.
Thank you again.

[kj_skibum]

First pregnancy at 43 and probably only one....wanted girl, having boy. Was disappointed as I wanted to do all the ballet, ice skating, girls scouts, girly things with her....wanted to do all the stuff my mom checked out on me on and be able to give her what I wanted as a young girl....It has been almost 3 months and now feel happy that I will have a boy and, a more authentic relationship with him then I may have had with a girl. He won't be pressured to be my "second childhood". I am so blessed and hope he is healthy!

[Sonia1101]

Thanks kholaz, al least I'm not alone on this, the simptoms I have are totally different, with my previous 2 pregnancies didn't feel anything, I just saw my belly getting big but no simptoms, zero, nothing. On this I experienced nausea, vomiting  (2 days only) fatigue most of the time and even some break outs in my face, back pain and something so strange, I feel like I have something stuck in my throat and can not eat to much, also I have a taste of like I been eating coins but dont want to associate my symptoms with a girl because everybody says that every pregnancy is different and later when I have my ultrasound if they tell me it's a boy again I don't want to get depressed :(

[kholaz]

The feeling is normal. I wanted a son but got a daughter - I know the feeling. If you haven't done an ultrasound as yet do one or just compare the symptoms you experienced then to what you're experiencing now