40 years old and desperately wanting a baby, WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!!!!!

[teddybearkit]

Hi Everyone,
I am new to this site.  I have posted and read the forums in the fertility section however I creeped in to this side of this site and was hoping to hear from some of you fine ladies that might have got pregnant at 40 or over and what you experienced and your journey before successfully becoming pregnant.
Just a quick briefing on my story so far.  I just got married for the first time 4 months ago to the man that I waited my whole life to find.  It's my and my husband's first marriage and neither of us have children.  Two weeks ago we had our first visit to a fertility doctor because although we had not been trying for very long at all, I also knew that I did not have any time to waste due to my age.  I am very much aware of the risks to the baby and also the odds of actually  getting pregnant at my age.  About a month ago I just had one blood test by my regular family doctor to test my progesterone level and it came back low.....which did not surprise me because I know there are certain months that I do not ovulate......however, I should mention that I have never missed a period and my periods are fairly regular although they started to come earlier abou 3 years ago.  So now it comes anywhere between the 25th-28th day.
I truly feel I have entered in to peri-menopause.  I have horrible sleepless restless nights.  Certain days of the month I will wake up feeling as though I just broke a fever because I'm sweaty and damp.  It's certainly not a hotflash though.
There are also certain days of the month where I am soooo hot during the night no matter how low I put the temperature or open the window at night.  Anyway, there are several signs that my progesterone and other hormone levels are all out of wack!  
The fertility doctor took a whole bunch of blood tests from myself and my husband and did an ultrasound on myself and has had me start trackin my basal temperature each morning.
We go back to see him in 2 weeks to find out the results of all these tests.
I would love and appreciate so much any feedback anybody could give me on success stories of becoming pregnant at 40 or over.  And if any of you experienced the same sort of things I am experiencing.
I'm afraid that I'm too far gone with all my hormone fluctuations to become pregnant.
I started to track my basal temperature the day after our first appointment and that was day 19 of my cycle and I was so happy to see that my temperature was high giving indication that I had ovulated but the high temperature only lasted for about 4 days and then started to slowly decline until I got my period.  But now that I am on day 3 of my period, it still has not really gone down that much.  Still higher then it should be after getting you period.  
HELP?!?

[Iseira]

Relax.Breathe.Hide that thermometer for now.A basic medical evaluation and pelvic assessment is the first step and that includes your thyroid function.Once you have no medical illness nor physical problems, hormone assays can be redone later.
You're only forty and you need to have regular sex for at least six months before you both get further evaluation.
I can tell that you're anxious and that level of stress will not help you to conceive because it will affect your body's chemistry.It will also affect your marriage because sex will just be a task to get pregnant.
Congrats on your marriage-enjoy it and give yourself that six-month window.Good luck.

[NZmum3]

Hi and welcome.You must be so glad you found this site like I was.
Everyone is so lovely and caring.
Good luck with your doctor appointments and stay postive about everything.
I just wanted to share with you my situation.
I'm nearly 45yrs and 9weeks pregnant.I had two miscarriages last year but didn't give up hope or trying....
This will be my partners first baby,he is 47yrs.
I have three other children and three grandchildren.
We concieved naturally.
It is still early days for me but I'm so postive that this time everything will be fine.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and wish you all the very best.
Please keep us posted.
Lots and lots of Aroha (love in Maori) and baby dust.  Erina :)

[prevatt77]

Sorry I missed this post to me:  To anwser your questions:  Yes, I was ovulating every month and tracked my temps for months.  Getting pregnant for me was easy, it was staying pregnant (I had 5 miscarriages).  By me charting I new by my numbers every month I was pregnant.  I never had any abnormal temping.  

Just don't give up...follow your dream and it will happen for you too.

Debbie

[Surprise42]

Hello Ladies. Thanks for the Congrats Teddybearkit and Hopefulcb!!! I did not chart my basal temperature. Did not expect for the pregnancy to occur soo soon. The doctors appointment was today and went quite well. The ultrasound photo is beautiful and showed the heartbeat and movement of the baby. According to the doctor all looks good. The first friday in February will be my first trimester screening.  The screening is to evaluate and ascertain information as it relates to genetic disease. Other good news, the ultrasound revealed I am actually 12 weeks 2 days not 10 weeks which the doctor guesstimated based om my lmp.  This new date 8/8/10, places me closer to seeing my new bundle of joy.

[Hopefulcb]

Congrats surprise42 and Nola! How exciting!! I can't wait until it happens to me (trying to be positive that it will indeed happen one way or another).

[nola0805]

Hi.  I also met my partner later in life.  I am 39 and was fortunate to conceive naturally after 3 months of trying.  I am not sure what OPK you are using but I highly recommend the OvaCue - it was very expensive (around $300), but it was the easiest and most accurate for me and it gives you a 7 day advance warning of when ovulation will occur.  It is digital and there for much easier to read than the urine tests (which never worked for me - I thought I was not ovulating) and the saliva based microscopes.  Although I will have to say that I used both the OvaCue and the microscope for a few months and both detected ovulation on the same day.  I also took FertilAid for almost a month before I conceived (but who knows if this is effective or really even safe).  

Also, a work colleague of mine who is 43 went in for testing to begin the process of IVF (she was going straight to IVF), only to find out that she was already pregnant, naturally.  She is now 18 weeks pregnant with a very healthy baby.

Best of luck to you!