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Another Loss
Sad news for me. After my joyfully unexpected pregnancy, I have sad news.
Had U/s today and there was no longer any heartbeat. The report says fetal demise at 6 weeks and 5 days. This is my 3rd miscarriage in a row. I am waiting to see what my Obe says. Whether I wait and see if I miscarry, or whether we do D&C. I would prefer to miscarry naturally - but I don't want to wait forever for this to happen. The last loss in November the baby passed at about 6 weeks but I didn't start miscarrying until 12 weeks, and ended up with D&C as there were signs of infection.
Am sad but philosophical. What will be will be. I so want a healthy baby!
I will be trying again (I seem to get pregnant pretty easily) and hope that the next one will be the one.
I am grateful everyday that I have my 2 YO daughter! I will continue enjoy and appreciate her and not forget what I have already, even as I hope and pray for another child.
I am glad I didn't tell many people. So many people have opinions and blame when one has a miscarriage. "You didn't rest enough. You were too stressed. You are something wrong.
Now I am asking myself what I could have done different? Maybe next try I will give up coffee. Can't think of anything else.... except that I am already 40, and I need perhaps the elixar of youth!
Had U/s today and there was no longer any heartbeat. The report says fetal demise at 6 weeks and 5 days. This is my 3rd miscarriage in a row. I am waiting to see what my Obe says. Whether I wait and see if I miscarry, or whether we do D&C. I would prefer to miscarry naturally - but I don't want to wait forever for this to happen. The last loss in November the baby passed at about 6 weeks but I didn't start miscarrying until 12 weeks, and ended up with D&C as there were signs of infection.
Am sad but philosophical. What will be will be. I so want a healthy baby!
I will be trying again (I seem to get pregnant pretty easily) and hope that the next one will be the one.
I am grateful everyday that I have my 2 YO daughter! I will continue enjoy and appreciate her and not forget what I have already, even as I hope and pray for another child.
I am glad I didn't tell many people. So many people have opinions and blame when one has a miscarriage. "You didn't rest enough. You were too stressed. You are something wrong.
Now I am asking myself what I could have done different? Maybe next try I will give up coffee. Can't think of anything else.... except that I am already 40, and I need perhaps the elixar of youth!
Sally I am just seeing this now. I am so sorry you are experiencing this yet again. I have long admired your attitude and have no doubt another beautiful child is in your future. I had Ryder at 40...it does happen all the time now. Good for you on moving forward!!! I wish you nothing but the best!
Hi,
I have found out that having had a successful pregnancy doesn't preclude you from having clotting disorder. Particularly the Antiphospholipid syndrome (also known as hughes syndrome), which is autoimmune (they don't know what triggers it).
I have a healthy 2 yo daughter, who was delivered after a very complicated pregnancy (but no obvious clotting problems). However, was trying for nearly a year wth no luck. Then fertility treatment for nearly a year, with 3 pregnancies and 3 miscarriages.
I have other autoimmune conditions (hypothyroid and diabetes). So I am kinda hoping that the testing will come back positive as it is treatable and there is still a chance that I can have a healthy pregnancy.
S
Am 40 now. But am not giving up yet.
I have found out that having had a successful pregnancy doesn't preclude you from having clotting disorder. Particularly the Antiphospholipid syndrome (also known as hughes syndrome), which is autoimmune (they don't know what triggers it).
I have a healthy 2 yo daughter, who was delivered after a very complicated pregnancy (but no obvious clotting problems). However, was trying for nearly a year wth no luck. Then fertility treatment for nearly a year, with 3 pregnancies and 3 miscarriages.
I have other autoimmune conditions (hypothyroid and diabetes). So I am kinda hoping that the testing will come back positive as it is treatable and there is still a chance that I can have a healthy pregnancy.
S
Am 40 now. But am not giving up yet.
Hi,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss as well. it is really hard to take seeing the HB one time and then the next nothing.
I was given misoprostone vaginally. My obe crushed and inserted about 6 tablets. i started cramping about 30 minutes after that. Spotting within 4 hours. And delivered the placenta within about 10 hours. Was bleeding pretty heavily for 3 days and then spotting.
Today will be 7 days and i go to see my obe this afternoon for followup. She will be ordering a heap of tests now to try to work out why.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss as well. it is really hard to take seeing the HB one time and then the next nothing.
I was given misoprostone vaginally. My obe crushed and inserted about 6 tablets. i started cramping about 30 minutes after that. Spotting within 4 hours. And delivered the placenta within about 10 hours. Was bleeding pretty heavily for 3 days and then spotting.
Today will be 7 days and i go to see my obe this afternoon for followup. She will be ordering a heap of tests now to try to work out why.
I too have had 3 losses in less than a year. One was a chemical pregnancy but the other 2 actually had heartbeats that then had stopped at the next US. I am 41 now so I am worried it may be my egg quality. Our youngest is 3. I started taking the 81 mg aspirin daily in case of the blood clotting disorder. I go today for cd3 labs for the FSH and Estradiol levels. On the clotting disorder, is that something that you would have with all previous pregnancies or is it something that you could develop later? I am doubtful that I have that problem because I have had previous full term pregnancies with no issue. I tried finding info online but couldnt really find something that would answer my question. Anyone know?
I'm right here with you. Had a follow-up U/S yesterday and no heartbeat was found. it was a total surprise pregnancy that we discovered two weeks ago, so there was two weeks of nervous excitement and then total let-down. We will move ahead.
I also inserted my first dose of misoprostone last night and now it is almost 24 hours later and nothing. he gave me one more dose to try and I'm hoping that does it. I also would like to avoid another D&C if I can help it. Fetus probably passed at around 6 weeks.
So did it only take about 12 hours for you to start mis-carrying? I know everyone is different...I'm just hoping this works.
sending lots of hugs your way. :)
I also inserted my first dose of misoprostone last night and now it is almost 24 hours later and nothing. he gave me one more dose to try and I'm hoping that does it. I also would like to avoid another D&C if I can help it. Fetus probably passed at around 6 weeks.
So did it only take about 12 hours for you to start mis-carrying? I know everyone is different...I'm just hoping this works.
sending lots of hugs your way. :)
Thanks so much everyone for your support and warmth. It really really helps.
Last Friday I saw my obe and she gave me misoprostone (a prostaglandin inhibitor) vaginally to induce the miscarriage. i miscarried on Friday night. SLight spotting and cramping still. I am so glad it is over now. Unlike last time, where we decided to wait and it took 6 weeks to start to miscarry and I ended up with a D&C.
I'll see my Obe this Friday and she'll order a full panel for blood clotting disorders, which are now suspect as I have had 3 consecutive miscarriages.
I am so hoping the tests turn up something treatable! I will try again as soon as I get the go ahead.
Last Friday I saw my obe and she gave me misoprostone (a prostaglandin inhibitor) vaginally to induce the miscarriage. i miscarried on Friday night. SLight spotting and cramping still. I am so glad it is over now. Unlike last time, where we decided to wait and it took 6 weeks to start to miscarry and I ended up with a D&C.
I'll see my Obe this Friday and she'll order a full panel for blood clotting disorders, which are now suspect as I have had 3 consecutive miscarriages.
I am so hoping the tests turn up something treatable! I will try again as soon as I get the go ahead.
Unfortunately, there is little you can do to prevent a miscarriage. I asked my ob about bed rest when I was diagnosed with threatened m/c. He told me that most m/c are due to chromosomal abnormalities and no amount of bed rest can change that.
I hope you can move on to another cycle, another bfp and a healthy baby!
I hope you can move on to another cycle, another bfp and a healthy baby!
Thanks everyone for your support and kind words.
Although logically I know there was probably little that could have been done, I really feel so bad that I have failed and that I MUST have done something wrong. It is worse this time because we saw a heartbeat - last time we never saw the heartbeat. And everything says that once a heartbeat is seen the risk of miscarriage goes down. I feel like I should be punished for failing and am being punished by not having this child. Not logical, but that is how I feel.
My Obe wants to see me on Friday, but her clinic time clashes with my daughter's pedia's clinic time (and she needs followup). So I'll see her on Saturday (gotta check her clinic times) or next week (after my work trip to Malaysia). I guess there's no great hurry at this time.
Some cramping, but not too much yet. I only stopped the progesterone two nights ago, so guess it is still too early....
So I can drink wine again. Big Yippee! It doesn't help how I feel. I will focus on losing more weight and getting fitter for the next try, and focus on work that needs to be done.
Although logically I know there was probably little that could have been done, I really feel so bad that I have failed and that I MUST have done something wrong. It is worse this time because we saw a heartbeat - last time we never saw the heartbeat. And everything says that once a heartbeat is seen the risk of miscarriage goes down. I feel like I should be punished for failing and am being punished by not having this child. Not logical, but that is how I feel.
My Obe wants to see me on Friday, but her clinic time clashes with my daughter's pedia's clinic time (and she needs followup). So I'll see her on Saturday (gotta check her clinic times) or next week (after my work trip to Malaysia). I guess there's no great hurry at this time.
Some cramping, but not too much yet. I only stopped the progesterone two nights ago, so guess it is still too early....
So I can drink wine again. Big Yippee! It doesn't help how I feel. I will focus on losing more weight and getting fitter for the next try, and focus on work that needs to be done.
Hi Sally, sad news indeed. You seem to have a knack for giving others sound and sensible advice as long as I've read your posts on this forum, so just follow your own intuition and let nature take you down the path intended. Keep the faith, and enjoy your lil 2yr old in the meantime!
Pam
Pam
I am so sorry for your loss. I know its difficult. Last April, I miscarried and I did not tell anyone about my pregnancy because I had spotting from 5 weeks up until my 11th week when I miscarried. If you get pregnant easy, try again. Don't give up! I just cut caffeine out of my diet as of 1/1/11, and began prenatals! Good luck. It will happen again!
Sorry so to hear about your loss. Remember, you did nothing wrong and you cannot blame yourself. Nobody benefits through blame.
At such a difficult time, may you find the love your daughter is ready to share comforting.
At such a difficult time, may you find the love your daughter is ready to share comforting.
Sorry about your loss, hope you get better soon!
Did you take baby aspirin? If not, maybe try it next time - I know it helped me have my baby boy!
Did you take baby aspirin? If not, maybe try it next time - I know it helped me have my baby boy!
Sending big hugs your way. So sorry for your loss. Like mol6541 said, you did nothing wrong. It's so natural to blame ourselves...I did too, but try to get that out of your mind.
Keep in mind you have done nothing wrong! That's one of the hardest things I had to accept when I had a loss last year. Somethings are just out of control. I am so sorry you are going through this. Enjoy your daughter and hopefully she will help you through this. I know my daughter did.
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