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Down Syndrome
I learn one out of 3 testes took one came back positive for down syndrome. Am I wrong for looking at adoption agencies already?
Thank you guy so much for the comments and support. I am praying for the best. She is due 11/7. I will seek further testing. When I first post this question didn't expect a lot response but I am so glad everyone did and I really appreciate all comments. I researched that test that came out positive and it gave a few reasons for a false positive. So I'm keeping my hopes up for the best. I'm able to think more clear today. My heart and mind was heavy yesterday and I just didn't know what to do or think.
Those test are not 100 percent accurate which is why the test is optional. But I understand your worry & cant judge you bc I don't know what I would do in that situation. I cried when they told me my baby was measuring small. Keep praying
If your baby does have down sydndrome why give it away? I was in foster care all my life until 18 and it hurts me to see people don't want there baby for a stupid reason I've seen birth mom just leave there babies in the hospital and never come back I'm now a nurse and and we have to call cps when families leave there babies at the hospital.
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Please ladies, lets keep this a supportive place. We dont all live the same lives, or make the same choices. We are here to offer support, not to judge or make anyone feel bad for what decisions they have made in ltheir lives.
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Mine came back positive too. I freaked out!!! Then i started researchingthe tests oIndus internet. Turns out, those tests give a lot of false positives. Out of 100 women tested, 40 will get a positive. Only 1-2 of those forty actually have a child withdown syndrome. Turns out, my baby is fine. Don't jump the gun. And hard as it is, don't stress!!!
I'm going through the exact same thing. I'm 34 weeks pregnant two diff blood test came back positive also abnormal ultra sound. Not sure which level the ultra sound was. I was devastated as well but like others have said i know people same situation n their child is healthy no sign of ds. My due date is 7/17 I'll update you on my baby girls health.
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Coming from a person who was adopted, I appreciate you wanting what is best for the child. God love you!!! I am glad my birthmom gave me up! I have had a wonderful life!!! It was very UNSHELFISH of her!!!
A lot of women abort if giving the choice. I just caution against rushing to adoption, until you have absolute proof, because you are going to get a person or persons attached to your baby and quite possibly you, then if your baby is born, and the tests were wrong, and you keep the baby, you have dashed their dreams, and left them empty handed.
A lot of women abort if giving the choice. I just caution against rushing to adoption, until you have absolute proof, because you are going to get a person or persons attached to your baby and quite possibly you, then if your baby is born, and the tests were wrong, and you keep the baby, you have dashed their dreams, and left them empty handed.
Please consider none of these tests are a hundred percent accurate; including amniocentesis. Years ago my sister in law had an amnio to rule out any abnormalities. Well amino came back that baby had one extra chromosome; possibly downs. So Dr. Then tested both parents; turned out father had same genetic make-up ( he is an enigeneer) . Baby born perfectly normal; he is now 19 yrs. Old with a full scholarship to medical school ; current in south America working with Dr s. Without borders ( one of youngest to be accepted to program.) My sil did consider all kinds of things when told of lab results; then later re glad she never acted.
Kita, kudos to you for considering adoption rather than termination. Very selfless. I recommend you get an amnio as I also had a positive harmony test for trisomy 21. It was devastating. Very happy to say that the amnio showed it to be a false positive. You are not less of a mother and do not accept judgement on this especially from someone who has not been through what you are experiencing.
Im.not trying to make you feel bad. Whatever you end up deciding is 100% on you. Your its mother here. And none of these app ladies opinions should matter at the end of the day. They arent in your shoes. Noones going to lecture you on what you finally decide. Its not our baby and your an adult. Im sure whatever you decide you thought it through well through
No im not perfect or trying to make you feel less of a mother all im saying is that its still your baby/blood no matter what. Who knows you might be able to handle this. Have you ever heard god only "gives special kids to special people". But if you still want to.give up your child than by all means go for it. Who am i to tell u otherwise.its not my child i have no say in this. Look my point is if you think your able to live with giving up your child and have someone else caring for it. You might be able too but i know i couldnt. Like i said just think about that in the long run the desicion is still yours at the end of the day. Whatever you choose to pick its all on YOU. Noone else.
I'm feeling a little defensive on your behalf towards the critics, Kita. I couldn't imagine how stressedl I would be if my test came back positive, and like I said I don't blame you at all for your mindset. Keep the adoption process in mind, but don't make any decisions until you have been looked at further. Remember, there is a great chance this baby will not have down syndrome.
Can't get upset with anyone for what you say however no matter what is being said it's not you facing what I am facing. I asked the question to get other ppl view on it. In my heart I feel it's wrong but just can't handle it. I'M SORRY IF THIS MAKE YOU GUYS FEEL LIKE I'M LESS OF A MOTHER. ....
BESONE the key fact at hand I'm not you or Ann which makes you both the perfect women that you are. It maybe wrong in you guys and others. Would you rather me keep it and not give it the attention it needs. Trust me when she said positive that was my first question am I able to have an abortion how ever I'm to far alone for that.
i agree with you ann.
Your baby is still your baby at the end of the day. I wouldnt be able to give it up and have someone out there taking care of whats MINE. Even.if something is wrong with it thats messed up just to give it up for that reason. Its still your child!!!! Id probably would rather abort than and not suffer than to have it living and me aband it
Your baby is still your baby at the end of the day. I wouldnt be able to give it up and have someone out there taking care of whats MINE. Even.if something is wrong with it thats messed up just to give it up for that reason. Its still your child!!!! Id probably would rather abort than and not suffer than to have it living and me aband it
My doctor asked if I wanted to take the and me and my husband decided not to because we would love her anyway if she did have it but my doctor told me that those test come out to be not right cause there's always a chance for them to come out positive and it be wrong
Squid it was apf? I going to have further testing done cause it is bothering me so much. Also thanks everyone for responding evening if you was judging me.
No Jess I have not looked into anything yet. I asked a question because that is how I feel if she is born with down syndrome. I'm only 19 weeks. It's just very stressful to be told my first blood work and ultrasound said my child was find and then he decides to run a third different type of blood work and it came back positive. The doctor finally call be back with my concerns and he stated it might just be a false positive being that the other two was negative.
Have you tried looking into a home service? Maybe someone who could assist you in caring for your child? I would exhaust all resources before giving your baby away. This would be the hardest thing you would do in your life probably but try to be strong. Do you have any family members that could help you so that way you wouldn't have to give up for adoption?
Believe it is a hard choice to make but I just know if it is I can't mentally or physically be able to deal with. No one knows how I feel in the inside to know that I maybe carrying something so special to be for nine months to have to give it away. It hurts I got the call at 130 p.m. Today and I have been in tears ever since. Trying to cope with the heartache and pain
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